Brigitte1234
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Hi,
I'm so happy I find this site - maybe I can get the answers that I have been looking for.
I'm from Denmark and there is not that much knowledge about testosterone here. I will try to make a long story short.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 years. Let me start by saying that he is the most wonderful and loving person that you could imagine. He is helping everyone he meets, complement me and other people, a family man and has a lot of friends. As a couple we are the annoying couple who still are madly in love. We have been trough a lot, but still laughs together every day.
So...
After we had been together 1 year he started gaining a lot of weight, have problems with the memory, the sex drive disappeared (even though he/it still "worked").
He went to a lot of doctors an after 1,5 year they found a tumor in the hypophysis.
Two years ago he started on testosterone injektions at the danish doctors, but did not response in the right way. They gave him higher and higher dosis, and at the end he got the maximum dosis every 8 weeks (according to the doctors they are actually only allowed to give it every 12 weeks) for a year before we got the opportunity to speak to them again. I don't remember the exact levels of testosterone - but when I prepared for the talk with the doctors I find out, that the levels went from "under the normale levels for a 90 years old man" to "normal levels for a 18 years old man" and then back ind the 8 weeks. He burned his testosterone injektions off in 5 weeks.
His mood swings and personalities (yes there was more then one) was crazy to experience. One week after the injektion he would be like a teenager - getting mad at people around him for no reason, and then apologize for his behavior.
Then he would be more like my "normal" man for 1-2 weeks. Then he would enter a stage I called: "man of the world". In this stage he would tell people that he was the best at everything. He could make up stories about himself to make himself more interesseting. He often confided in me, that he felt awful afterwards.
In the last week he would be like a zombie with no energy, no memory and so on...
His weight also went up and down in this 8 weeks period with 30 kg. (66lbs) in difference.
In the year with injektions we did't have sex. I did't want to pressure him and I could feel that he did't feel well.
9 months in I find an ad for a prostitute on his computer. I was shocked. He told me, that he only looked but my gut feeling told me that it wasn't the hole truth. He told me (what I chose to believe) that he only contacted her on text and had a fantasy about it.
I asked him if he wanted to go to one, cause if he did, he could go if he needed it in his terrible state. I only had two requirements. 1. I need to know before. 2. It has to be in another city.
He said no. He could't be unfaithful to me.
It was hard for me in the next months. I had a feeling that this was something he couldn't control.
1,5 Months ago I had a feeling something was up - From the moment I woke up. I called him at work and asked him a lot of questions. After doing some "detective work" I had proof he had contacted one again.
I felt so helpless and told hin we had to split. I can handle a lot of things but not lies.
He broke down an told me that he had contacted up to 20 girls over a period of 10 months. He always planned everything: When, where, with "the right girl", what to say to me ect. But when he had to go in, he canceled. He felt awful afterwards but at the same time he called it a parallel universe were he could write to me at the same time without thinking about my feelings. He tried (with me on the side) to retrieve the delete texts to show me he was telling he truth - but we couldn't. He gave me access to all his things including his phone reports and locations reports - And it all seems to be true. He told me, that he had never had thoughts like this before the medicine, even as young and single.
I have checked all the dates and most days he wouldn't have had time to go to them. But more "interesting" is that all the texts was in the same period of his "hormon cycle". Is was always in the weeks were he had topped an the level of hormone was falling.
My friend (female) who is a biologist specialize in humans and also chiropractor have helped me a lot. Telling me that a man getting so much testosterone at once and then loosing it again so quickly should have a medal for not cheating on me - if he didn't do that. She did some research for me an find a lot by most interesting was this:
"Your levels of testosterone will get higher not by the "cheating" but in having interest in having sex with other people then your girlfriend/wife. It's called the "Mating Effort" So the interest and the thought that people put in to in pursuing sex with other people gives testosterone a boost."
My friend believes that no matter have much he want's to not contact them, then he would not have the control over himself to not do it. She is comparing it with heroin or another drug. Where the hole body is craving a boost of the testosterone.
So I have choosing to stay with him. To give him one more chance.
The meeting with the doctors ended with a medicine change. So now he is getting testogele every day instead and have been on it for 3 weeks.
He is more happy with this medicine, and feel more balanced even though he might be under normale level. He is telling me, that he feel more like himself now. We have also had sex "like the old days". :-D
He hope that I will trust him again one day. He is sending me his live-position all the time, calling me, sending pictures of where he is and I can look at his phone record if I want to. He knows it might takes years for me to trust him completely again.
If I could hear some stories from you, it might be easier to understand and forgive. Part of me know it's the medicine but the other side is thinking: "Can it really do so much or is it just an excuse?"
We also both have som questions, we would like to know:
Is this behavior "normal" with a to high of dose? Both the sudden urges and the personality changes?
If yes, is it better/worse with the gele?
Should we just partly accept that it's part of the treatment?
What kind of side effects can you expect from the gele?
Hope that one of you can answer our questions.
Thanks... <3
I'm so happy I find this site - maybe I can get the answers that I have been looking for.
I'm from Denmark and there is not that much knowledge about testosterone here. I will try to make a long story short.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 years. Let me start by saying that he is the most wonderful and loving person that you could imagine. He is helping everyone he meets, complement me and other people, a family man and has a lot of friends. As a couple we are the annoying couple who still are madly in love. We have been trough a lot, but still laughs together every day.
So...
After we had been together 1 year he started gaining a lot of weight, have problems with the memory, the sex drive disappeared (even though he/it still "worked").
He went to a lot of doctors an after 1,5 year they found a tumor in the hypophysis.
Two years ago he started on testosterone injektions at the danish doctors, but did not response in the right way. They gave him higher and higher dosis, and at the end he got the maximum dosis every 8 weeks (according to the doctors they are actually only allowed to give it every 12 weeks) for a year before we got the opportunity to speak to them again. I don't remember the exact levels of testosterone - but when I prepared for the talk with the doctors I find out, that the levels went from "under the normale levels for a 90 years old man" to "normal levels for a 18 years old man" and then back ind the 8 weeks. He burned his testosterone injektions off in 5 weeks.
His mood swings and personalities (yes there was more then one) was crazy to experience. One week after the injektion he would be like a teenager - getting mad at people around him for no reason, and then apologize for his behavior.
Then he would be more like my "normal" man for 1-2 weeks. Then he would enter a stage I called: "man of the world". In this stage he would tell people that he was the best at everything. He could make up stories about himself to make himself more interesseting. He often confided in me, that he felt awful afterwards.
In the last week he would be like a zombie with no energy, no memory and so on...
His weight also went up and down in this 8 weeks period with 30 kg. (66lbs) in difference.
In the year with injektions we did't have sex. I did't want to pressure him and I could feel that he did't feel well.
9 months in I find an ad for a prostitute on his computer. I was shocked. He told me, that he only looked but my gut feeling told me that it wasn't the hole truth. He told me (what I chose to believe) that he only contacted her on text and had a fantasy about it.
I asked him if he wanted to go to one, cause if he did, he could go if he needed it in his terrible state. I only had two requirements. 1. I need to know before. 2. It has to be in another city.
He said no. He could't be unfaithful to me.
It was hard for me in the next months. I had a feeling that this was something he couldn't control.
1,5 Months ago I had a feeling something was up - From the moment I woke up. I called him at work and asked him a lot of questions. After doing some "detective work" I had proof he had contacted one again.
I felt so helpless and told hin we had to split. I can handle a lot of things but not lies.
He broke down an told me that he had contacted up to 20 girls over a period of 10 months. He always planned everything: When, where, with "the right girl", what to say to me ect. But when he had to go in, he canceled. He felt awful afterwards but at the same time he called it a parallel universe were he could write to me at the same time without thinking about my feelings. He tried (with me on the side) to retrieve the delete texts to show me he was telling he truth - but we couldn't. He gave me access to all his things including his phone reports and locations reports - And it all seems to be true. He told me, that he had never had thoughts like this before the medicine, even as young and single.
I have checked all the dates and most days he wouldn't have had time to go to them. But more "interesting" is that all the texts was in the same period of his "hormon cycle". Is was always in the weeks were he had topped an the level of hormone was falling.
My friend (female) who is a biologist specialize in humans and also chiropractor have helped me a lot. Telling me that a man getting so much testosterone at once and then loosing it again so quickly should have a medal for not cheating on me - if he didn't do that. She did some research for me an find a lot by most interesting was this:
"Your levels of testosterone will get higher not by the "cheating" but in having interest in having sex with other people then your girlfriend/wife. It's called the "Mating Effort" So the interest and the thought that people put in to in pursuing sex with other people gives testosterone a boost."
My friend believes that no matter have much he want's to not contact them, then he would not have the control over himself to not do it. She is comparing it with heroin or another drug. Where the hole body is craving a boost of the testosterone.
So I have choosing to stay with him. To give him one more chance.
The meeting with the doctors ended with a medicine change. So now he is getting testogele every day instead and have been on it for 3 weeks.
He is more happy with this medicine, and feel more balanced even though he might be under normale level. He is telling me, that he feel more like himself now. We have also had sex "like the old days". :-D
He hope that I will trust him again one day. He is sending me his live-position all the time, calling me, sending pictures of where he is and I can look at his phone record if I want to. He knows it might takes years for me to trust him completely again.
If I could hear some stories from you, it might be easier to understand and forgive. Part of me know it's the medicine but the other side is thinking: "Can it really do so much or is it just an excuse?"
We also both have som questions, we would like to know:
Is this behavior "normal" with a to high of dose? Both the sudden urges and the personality changes?
If yes, is it better/worse with the gele?
Should we just partly accept that it's part of the treatment?
What kind of side effects can you expect from the gele?
Hope that one of you can answer our questions.
Thanks... <3
