sounds like a convert narcissist. I would, yeah, keep talking to other women. Get good at playful banter and dating. Practice makes perfect. I'm in a similar situation and it's crazy making. Best to you my man- we are only getting older !@tropicaldaze1950 Man you hit the nail on the freaking head. About my mental state and hers. She takes zero ownership and I'm stuck trying to figure it out. She makes leaving super difficult. Threatening to hurt herself if I leave yet at the same time ignoring my needs, which if she fulfilled would likely have a very positive effect on the relationship. These aren't demanding requests either, basic shit. Somehow killing herself seems like a better alternative. I know she is full of shit and being dramatic. Its difficult being with someone so dramatic. Well I about 90% over it and I am feeling very empowered by that. Being alone for a bit feels like a very real and pleasant possibility.