What's your idea of a good libido?

[KenLowT]

I can always tell when I have a good libido by my level of attraction to females. If I find girls attractive, but don't necessarily think of them in sexual terms then I know my libido is low. If I find really fit & athletic girls attractive plus I think of them of sexually then I know I have an emerging libido. Finally, if I find certain women I normally wouldn't look at attractive while thinking of them sexually then I know my libido is strong. Sometimes I'll be standing in a place minding my own business when I start to notice women of all sizes, shapes, and ages. It doesn't even matter that under normal circumstances I would not find these women attractive, during that moment and with that libido they are extremely tempting. That feeling is very rare for me, but it's a feeling I'd love to have again and again. What does a good libido mean to you? How can you tell when you're sex drive is right where you want it be? Just curious to see what everybody else's experience is.

 

[Nashtide]

That's a pretty good definition.

 

[MarkM]

I don't recall having a libido issue at all during my life and I have never looked at a women I wasn't attracted to and thought of them sexually or were tempted by them. Now, if I am attracted to them, and there are many attractive women out there, then that is another matter. I've always felt there were tons of seriously attractive women out there to get the juices flowing without having to have sexual thoughts about ones I wasn't attracted to.

Maybe that means my libido isn't what I think it is if most men's primal nature is like that. I can see if I was on a deserted island where options were limited I would probably have a little different view.

 

[Vince]

So strong libido for me is, enjoying looking at women. I would also think enjoying how they feel and enjoying touching them. I love women.

 

[Gman86]

Ya I agree with Nashtide, you basically took the words right out of my mouth. It’s easy for me to tell when my libido is high. The higher it is the wider the range of girls I find sexually attractive. When it was at its highest, I would literally find almost every girl sexually attractive, big, older, not that attractive, didn’t matter, if there was even an inclinging of a chance to hookup I would happily pounce on it. When it’s low, I barely even think of it. I look at girls and think, oh they’re attractive obv and I’ll stare at their ass and stuff, but I won’t even think about wanting to or trying to flirt with them or want to have sex with them. The energy to want to try is just not their. When libido is high, man, the energy to do so is at like a 10 and I’ll do anything it takes to get with them. Also it’s easy to tell because when it’s high, anything and everything will turn me on and make me want to go jerk off. Seeing a girl in a commercial, or thinking of a random sexual memory, I’ll have to jerk off or it’s all I’ll think about once it’s in my head. When it’s on the low side, that basically just doesn’t happen. The only time I’ll jerk off when it’s low is when I’m extremely bored and it just gives me something to do.

Another way to look at it, at least for me, is the higher my libido, the higher the number I add to any girl. For example, when my libido is high, you just add like 3 to any girl and that’s literally how my brain perceives her. So if the girls a 2, my brain will view her as a 5 when my libido is high. If she’s a 5, she becomes an 8 and I’ll want to hookup with her like another guy would want to hookup with a girl that’s an actual 8. When my libido is low, I just see them as what they are. And obv there’s in between. When my libido is moderate, my brain will add a 1-2 to the girl.

 

[KenLowT]

Libido in high school = want every girl every day. 33 no trt = once a week is fine. TRT with moderately low e2 = visually noticing hot women, but not feeling it physically. Dialed in = gotta have it everyday, and sometimes it seems a 5-6 would be great. Lol

I would love to be your definition of "dialed in".

 

[KenLowT]

So strong libido for me is, enjoying looking at women. I would also think enjoying how they feel and enjoying touching them. I love women.

So I take it you never had a libido problem prior to TRT.

 

[Gman86]

I don't recall having a libido issue at all during my life and I have never looked at a women I wasn't attracted to and thought of them sexually or were tempted by them. Now, if I am attracted to them, and there are many attractive women out there, then that is another matter. I've always felt there were tons of seriously attractive women out there to get the juices flowing without having to have sexual thoughts about ones I wasn't attracted to.

Maybe that means my libido isn't what I think it is if most men's primal nature is like that. I can see if I was on a deserted island where options were limited I would probably have a little different view.

Ya I’m no sexual psychologist or anything, and there’s probably other factors that go into finding woman sexually attractive, but my guess is that you’ve probably just never had a raging libido before. Because in my experience, and from other guys that I’ve talked to about it, when me and my friends libido’s were at our highest it was like have beer goggles on 24/7 lol. Just think of how you view girls when your drunk late at night. That’s how I would describe how I view girls when my libido is at its highest. Ive experienced this libido in my late teens/ early twenties, and then again when I was on HCG monotherapy at the beginning of my HRT journey. Then after that my libido has been moderate I would say. Currently it’s low, but I think that’s only because my E2 is high and also because I made a dosage change recently and my body is still getting used to it.

 

[KenLowT]

Ya I agree with Nashtide, you basically took the words right out of my mouth. It’s easy for me to tell when my libido is high. The higher it is the wider the range of girls I find sexually attractive. When it was at its highest, I would literally find almost every girl sexually attractive, big, older, not that attractive, didn’t matter, if there was even an inclinging of a chance to hookup I would happily pounce on it. When it’s low, I barely even think of it. I look at girls and think, oh they’re attractive obv and I’ll stare at their ass and stuff, but I won’t even think about wanting to or trying to flirt with them or want to have sex with them. The energy to want to try is just not their. When libido is high, man, the energy to do so is at like a 10 and I’ll do anything it takes to get with them. Also it’s easy to tell because when it’s high, anything and everything will turn me on and make me want to go jerk off. Seeing a girl in a commercial, or thinking of a random sexual memory, I’ll have to jerk off or it’s all I’ll think about once it’s in my head. When it’s on the low side, that basically just doesn’t happen. The only time I’ll jerk off when it’s low is when I’m extremely bored and it just gives me something to do.

Another way to look at it, at least for me, is the higher my libido, the higher the number I add to any girl. For example, when my libido is high, you just add like 3 to any girl and that’s literally how my brain perceives her. So if the girls a 2, my brain will view her as a 5 when my libido is high. If she’s a 5, she becomes an 8 and I’ll want to hookup with her like another guy would want to hookup with a girl that’s an actual 8. When my libido is low, I just see them as what they are. And obv there’s in between. When my libido is moderate, my brain will add a 1-2 to the girl.

Thanks for your post, it was hilarious and informative. It's good to see that others think the same. You took the words right out of my mouth. When my libido is right, I will see some random thick or even fat woman and somehow focus on the size of her breasts or booty. I totally overlook the rest, but I usually even find her face pretty. And yes, when I think I have a chance to hook up or if I even get an eye to eye acknowledgement, it's enough to turn me on. That kind of libido has been rare in my life. It's peaked it's head sometimes during my first few months of TRT, but only for like an hour or so. I want that feeling all day. I'm married so hooking up is out of the question, but I find that when my libodo works like that it bodes well for my sex life with my wife. For the most part my libido has been low which means I'll find women attractive, but not think of them in sexual terms.

 

[MarkM]

Ya I’m no sexual psychologist or anything, and there’s probably other factors that go into finding woman sexually attractive, but my guess is that you’ve probably just never had a raging libido before. Because in my experience, and from other guys that I’ve talked to about it, when me and my friends libido’s were at our highest it was like have beer goggles on 24/7 lol. Just think of how you view girls when your drunk late at night. That’s how I would describe how I view girls when my libido is at its highest. Ive experienced this libido in my late teens/ early twenties, and then again when I was on HCG monotherapy at the beginning of my HRT journey. Then after that my libido has been moderate I would say. Currently it’s low, but I think that’s only because my E2 is high and also because I made a dosage change recently and my body is still getting used to it.

Well, if a raging libido means that I want to have sex with every woman I see, then you are right, I've never had a raging libido and if that is the definition of a raging libido I am just fine not having it. Mine just must be "great" verse "raging" and one could argue that maybe, just maybe, having just a "great" libido all the time is better than having no libido part of the time and a "raging" on the rest of the time. We are all different for sure.

 

[Gman86]

Thanks for your post, it was hilarious and informative. It's good to see that others think the same. You took the words right out of my mouth. When my libido is right, I will see some random thick or even fat woman and somehow focus on the size of her breasts or booty. I totally overlook the rest, but I usually even find her face pretty. And yes, when I think I have a chance to hook up or if I even get an eye to eye acknowledgement, it's enough to turn me on. That kind of libido has been rare in my life. It's peaked it's head sometimes during my first few months of TRT, but only for like an hour or so. I want that feeling all day. I'm married so hooking up is out of the question, but I find that when my libodo works like that it bodes well for my sex life with my wife. For the most part my libido has been low which means I'll find women attractive, but not think of them in sexual terms.

I can relate and also agree with literally everything you just said. I would describe high libido the exact way. I’ll just find something attractive about them. And there are also other benefits to libido other than just hooking up with random girls. In my experience, it absolutely correlates with romance and wanting to do something nice for my girlfriend, or just complimenting her more or just being more lovey dovey.

Also, I’m not sure if this is due to increased confidence or increase libido, because i usually get them both at the same time. If I have one I usually have the other. But anyways, when they’re high I will compliment girls left and right. Just anywhere, while checking out at the grocery store, while paying for something at a convenience store, just anytime I come in close contact with a girl. They absolutely love it. Even if the girls not attractive really, I’ll still find something I like and compliment her on it. So I like the fact that I’m putting smiles on girls faces. Sometimes a compliment like that can make a girls whole day.

So for me, there’s multiple reasons why I like having a high libido.

 

[Gman86]

Well, if a raging libido means that I want to have sex with every woman I see, then you are right, I've never had a raging libido and if that is the definition of a raging libido I am just fine not having it. Mine just must be "great" verse "raging" and one could argue that maybe, just maybe, having just a "great" libido all the time is better than having no libido part of the time and a "raging" on the rest of the time. We are all different for sure.

Absolutely Mark. Mine is low right now, and I would absolutely take having a “great” libido my whole life versus experiencing the high’s that I have and the low that I’m currently in

 

[MarkM]

I can relate and also agree with literally everything you just said. I would describe high libido the exact way. I’ll just find something attractive about them. And there are also other benefits to libido other than just hooking up with random girls. In my experience, it absolutely correlates with romance and wanting to do something nice for my girlfriend, or just complimenting her more or just being more lovey dovey.

Also, I’m not sure if this is due to increased confidence or increase libido, because i usually get them both at the same time. If I have one I usually have the other. But anyways, when they’re high I will compliment girls left and right. Just anywhere, while checking out at the grocery store, while paying for something at a convenience store, just anytime I come in close contact with a girl. They absolutely love it. Even if the girls not attractive really, I’ll still find something I like and compliment her on it. So I like the fact that I’m putting smiles on girls faces. Sometimes a compliment like that can make a girls whole day.

So for me, there’s multiple reasons why I like having a high libido.

I agree that libido and confidence go hand in hand. I think paying compliments to people, women in this matter, is a polite and gentleman thing to do. It has to do with making people feel better and on the other hand, it makes you feel good being nice to people in my opinion. I learned a long time ago dealing with employees that you never know what kind of a day someone is having and what type of crisis might be going on in their life. Sometimes saying something nice, acknowledging them, or paying them a compliment can make their day and it might be the only thing positive said to them that day, maybe that week. Putting smiles on people's face warms the heart.

 

[DragonBits]

Good question.

Too low: If I never think of women at all, if a random porn video looks extremely boring, if not dating for five years feels normal, I don’t masturbate for a year, then my libido is nonexistent.

Too High: If a random though of my GF gives me a hard on in the shower at the gym, if vacuum cleaner hoses start to look interesting, if I keep getting erections while walking around in a grocery store, if I keep flirting with my wife’s sister, then my libido is way high.

I like in-between the extremes.

It didn’t bother me to have non-existent libido, I got more word done. Mainly it didn’t bother me because I wasn’t married or dating anyone and didn’t feel the need to. Too high was annoying as my fiancé was in Thailand 7000 miles away and I didn’t want to get involved in a relationship locally. And even when I was there, who has time for sex 5 hours a day?

Now we have been married for 5 years and she lives here with me.

Good libido to me is wanting and being able to have sex every day without it driving me to distraction not to have sex every day.

 

[KenLowT]

Good question.

Too low: If I never think of women at all, if a random porn video looks extremely boring, if not dating for five years feels normal, I don’t masturbate for a year, then my libido is nonexistent.

Too High: If a random though of my GF gives me a hard on in the shower at the gym, if vacuum cleaner hoses start to look interesting, if I keep getting erections while walking around in a grocery store, if I keep flirting with my wife’s sister, then my libido is way high.

I like in-between the extremes.

It didn’t bother me to have non-existent libido, I got more word done. Mainly it didn’t bother me because I wasn’t married or dating anyone and didn’t feel the need to. Too high was annoying as my fiancé was in Thailand 7000 miles away and I didn’t want to get involved in a relationship locally. And even when I was there, who has time for sex 5 hours a day?

Now we have been married for 5 years and she lives here with me.

Good libido to me is wanting and being able to have sex every day without it driving me to distraction not to have sex every day.

Sounds like a good compromise.

 

[Gman86]

I agree that libido and confidence go hand in hand. I think paying compliments to people, women in this matter, is a polite and gentleman thing to do. It has to do with making people feel better and on the other hand, it makes you feel good being nice to people in my opinion. I learned a long time ago dealing with employees that you never know what kind of a day someone is having and what type of crisis might be going on in their life. Sometimes saying something nice, acknowledging them, or paying them a compliment can make their day and it might be the only thing positive said to them that day, maybe that week. Putting smiles on people's face warms the heart.

Literally couldn’t agree more. Being happy is what life’s about. I found out a long time ago that the happier I make people around me, the happier I am. It just feels good to know you made someone happy, even if it’s just that one compliment you gave them. Like you said, that one compliment could make their whole day. It can turn a bad day into a good one with just one nice complement or gesture.

 

[Renman23]

A good Libido to me is like having a Tiger in a Cage...

Low Libido he's sleep all the time.
High Libido hes pacing the bars all day ...

for me a good libido is feeling the tiger is up, hungry, looking for opportunities, he may not take them, but he's looking!

 

[KenLowT]

A good Libido to me is like having a Tiger in a Cage...

Low Libido he's sleep all the time.
High Libido hes pacing the bars all day ...

for me a good libido is feeling the tiger is up, hungry, looking for opportunities, he may not take them, but he's looking!

That's a good description. Like a tiger, ready to pounce.

 

[Leesto]

A good Libido to me is like having a Tiger in a Cage...

Low Libido he's sleep all the time.
High Libido hes pacing the bars all day ...

for me a good libido is feeling the tiger is up, hungry, looking for opportunities, he may not take them, but he's looking!

That's as good as any description I have heard. When it is high you can't get the thought of sex out of your head until you get it. Afterward the thoughts come back very quickly and the tiger is pacing again.

 

[Mountain Man]

That's as good as any description I have heard. When it is high you can't get the thought of sex out of your head until you get it. Afterward the thoughts come back very quickly and the tiger is pacing again.

Sex drive is one of the most under rated signs of health, particularly as we age. I had a physical a few months ago and the doctor didn’t ask any questions about sex. Healthy libido indicates good hormones and blood flow. I also believe that people get old because libido dies, especially if they have been married a long time. It becomes something both a husband and wife buy into, that their sex lives are gone, it’s a chore, or something they do 6 to 8 times per year. If the body isn’t having sex, then it thinks it’s genetic purpose is not needed and it might as well die.

For me, I think healthy is 3-4 times per week. I have to be attracted to my wife and able to channel that energy into my relationship with her. Too high, and that drive goes to fantasizing about others, too low and my penis is just doing time waiting for assisted living. The sweet spot is hard to describe, but I know it when I see it.