Great question, Trevor, and I'm glad you're approaching this methodically rather than just cranking the DHT sky-high and hoping for the best.
First, let me validate your observation: you're absolutely right that DHT plays a significant role in libido and erection quality. DHT is a significantly more potent androgen than testosterone. It binds to androgen receptors with about 3 to 5 times the affinity of testosterone and doesn't aromatize to estrogen. The penile tissue, prostate, and brain are all rich in 5-alpha reductase, which means they're particularly DHT-sensitive. So the idea that optimizing your DHT relative to testosterone can improve sexual function is biologically sound, not bro-science.
Now, to your actual ratio question. There's no formally established "optimal T/DHT ratio" in the clinical literature for sexual function. What I can tell you from years of tracking this with members here is that naturally, most men without TRT run a T

HT ratio somewhere in the range of 3:1 to 5:1, meaning testosterone is typically 3 to 5 times higher than DHT. When you're on testosterone injections, that ratio often shifts because injected T converts to DHT via 5-alpha reductase somewhat differently depending on the route and dose.
Your reported sweet spot of 1:2 to 1:3, meaning DHT is 2 to 3 times your testosterone level, is quite high on the DHT side, and yes, it's outside the range most men would see naturally or even on TRT. That said, if your DHT is sitting under 400 ng/dL and your T is, say, around 150 to 200 ng/dL total at trough, that's a very unusual but not inherently catastrophic ratio. The question is what's your total testosterone actually running at mid-week, and what is your estradiol doing alongside this?
Here are the legitimate long-term concerns I'd want you to think through honestly.
Prostate is the biggest one. DHT is the primary driver of prostate growth. Running chronically elevated DHT, even below 800, does carry an increased risk of benign prostatic hyperplasia acceleration over years, and in men with any predisposition, potentially worse. I'd want a PSA baseline and annual monitoring at minimum if you're going to do this long-term.
Hair loss is another obvious one. If you're genetically predisposed to androgenetic alopecia, elevated DHT will accelerate it noticeably. That may or may not matter to you, but it's worth knowing.
Polycythemia risk is somewhat elevated with higher androgens overall. Make sure your hematocrit stays under 52 to 54%.
Estrogen suppression is counterintuitive but real. DHT actually competes with aromatization and can lower your estradiol over time. A lot of men who chase DHT for libido accidentally crash their estrogen, which paradoxically tanks libido and destroys erections. Make sure your
sensitive estradiol is staying in a healthy range, somewhere around 20 to 35 pg/mL.
The other honest question to sit with: are there other upstream issues you haven't fully addressed? Sometimes men start layering on DHT gel because TRT alone hasn't fixed sexual function, but the root cause is estrogen imbalance, sleep quality, dopamine/prolactin issues, or vascular problems. DHT doesn't fix those, it just temporarily masks them.
If you're going to continue with the alphagels long-term, I'd suggest getting labs every 3 to 6 months including PSA, hematocrit,
sensitive estradiol, and a full metabolic panel. Keep a symptom journal alongside your labs so you can spot drift before it becomes a problem. And honestly, a
urologist who's open-minded about hormones would be worth a visit just to have a prostate baseline evaluation documented.
The fact that you're being careful with microdosing and monitoring your levels puts you ahead of most people experimenting with this. Just don't let the sexual function wins make you complacent about the monitoring side. That's where guys get into trouble.