Source: Married Man Sex Life website
I'm in my forties and i have had about 5 different partners, from my early 20's until recently that have had a vascectomy. SEX IS MASSIVELY DIFFERENT with a man who has had a vascectomy and i would never be in a long term relationship with anyone with one for that simple reason. It doesnt matter how gorgeous he is, how aching the chemisty is between us, or how deeply the feelings of emotional love run between us. hands down, my vagaina feels an absence of spark, of ferel-ness, of hit-that-mark urgency from him that is all part of the delicate dance of banging with an undercurretnt to get pregnant while not actually wanting to get pregnant. its a game of sorts and the more virile the man is–meaning he has sperm and can get you pregnnat–the more hot the componants are between us for sex. take away that driving force, that risk even subconsciously and you have little more than an animated dildo attached to a man. i dont care how many people will bash me for this but i honestly thought it was me with my first partner. we had an amazing sex life and he was the love of my life [in my twenties]. we actually chose to go and get a vascectomy together because our sex life was deep and he was afraid of pregnancy. the love was deeper as we went on but the feeling, the intensity of sex greatly diminished. we had other issues so i attributed this to those other areas. my next partner was someone i had dated a few years earlier and we were very hot. in the years since i had seen him, he had gotten a vascectomy. again, a noticable lack of the spark that once pulled us together. it would be years later when i would have another partner who had one, i was in my thirties then and again, assumed i didnt know what i was talking about. the same thing, the sex just wasnt the same as it was with someone who didnt have a vascectomy. i too, was excited at the prospect of limitless sex without worry of pregnnacy until it became noticable that i actually wasnt drawn to have limitless sex with my partner. it just wasnt the same. now, im in my 40's and in the last 5 years have dated several men who had vascectomies and had not told me. i could tell right away. its a shame really and i think that any man should seriously consider this elemant before diving off the deep end and cutting out the cro magnon drive we're all wired with to have sex to begin with. as for me, i persoanlly am not willing to give up my primal love of a man who is intact and with the driving force of sperm and the risk. my body knows the difference between the two and ive made my choice.
a good analogy is to ask if a female cat is interested in the neutured male. she isnt. its not personal, he just isnt going to arouse her deeper primal nature like a unneutured male is. sex is [for me] at best ‘okay' with a partner who has had a vascectomy–and yes, this is even while im in love with him. it doesnt compare tho to the bring me to my knees sexual prowess i feel with someone who doesnt have a vascectomy. and unfortunatly how we have sex and how it affects us is often directly tied to how in love we feel with somone. if the realtionship is workable that in love feeling can transcend to deeper love and long term commitment. but without the hotness of that sexual componant, you dont stand a chance of glueing the relationship togehter on semen only sex. she will never feel satisfied and she may even stop getting wet all togehter. in all my relaitonships with partners who have had a vascectomy, i ended up not wanting sex, dreading my partner wanting sex and not even able to get excited to have sex with them. this caused immesuable problems in the relationship as a whole and in honestly, i was more willing to walk away from these partenrs more quickly than i ever have been with men who im involved with who are intact. i would urge a man not to get a vascectomy because it changes everything.
I enjoy sex.. after 10 years i still want sex every day more than once. After 4 kids my husband choose to have a vasectomy. I still love sex! I have noticed that when im ovulating i fantasiz about sex with other men.
I know before his vasectomy i couldnt get enough of him. I dont know if it was psychological or physical… just though i would
My husband had a vasectomy 5 months after our third child was born. Almost 3 years later he is still complaining about my “lack of desire” for him. I feel robbed of his manhood and don't know how to move beyond it. I think he is really attractive and I enjoy sex with him some of the time, but like some previous posters said, it's lacking. The raw possibility that I could be filled with a child by his semen is gone. My body doesn't crave his fluids at all. I worry our relationship will continue to suffer because of this. He is sad because I don't desire him and I am sad because he is not the fertile man I married.
Vasectomies can ruin intimacy. It's ruined ours.
Glad I read this. I felt all kinds of bitch for finding my hubby less attractive, sexually than before his vasectomy. I have zero interest in sex with him and I cant tell him that, I mean how cruel! So, instead I'll just suck it up and think positive thoughts (it does help) I dont think of him as a ‘man' and that is just awfull but it is subconcious, I cant help it. I used to find his smell so sexy. I am so sad about it. We have enough kids, it is something more basic than wanting children, it is subconcious and I hate it. It started before he had the vasectomy, we discussed it, I didnt like the idea, but it is his body and I do not believe in telling people what they can do with thier body. I do wish I had sometimes. It has not changed my feelings of love and admiration and appreciation of him I just dont want to jump his bones anymore. It is amental thing so I will just change my thought process and I hope it works…
Comment Five: “My love button has been turned off since my husband's vasectomy. Sex just isn't what it used to be. I loved the way he would squirt all over me and now it just drops off the end. It's like going to watch fireworks and awaiting the grand finale…but you get one of those little streamer kinds. It is disappointing. He no longer smells like he did either. He would walk by and I could get so turned on by his scent and now, it seems like it's gone. I can't even smell it on his clothes like I did when doing laundry. I used to get turned on doing his laundry! Since his vasectomy, things have gone downhill sexually and just between us. I vividly remember him coming through the door after his vasectomy procedure and he seemed different to me. In fact, I almost instantly started looking at and lusting for other men. How do you explain that?
You bet it's biology. Now I'm disconnected and looking for answers. We have 3 kids and certainly don't want more. Vasectomy is just so sad in the end. Physically, mentally and emotionally. Don't do it. You will get more sex before the procedure!!!I'm loyal and I want to stay together but I also don't want to stay in a relationship with sex that doesn't turn me on.I can see why this could lead to divorce. I just want the man I couldn't get enough of back.Vasectomy took him away. We're together and all…It's just different now.Hard to explain but living it”
So all I'm saying here is that it makes me wonder. Is there some sort of casual link that goes Vasectomy -> Loss Of Sexual Attraction -> Divorce. Whether that loss of wifely attraction comes from a biological or psychological basis doesn't really matter, though it would be interesting to find out.
More importantly… why hasn't this been studied?
Semen smells different after vasectomy and its a massive turn off.
Not the smell (used to be strong kinda funky smell and now its a light sweet smell)
But the idea he's fixed .
Just not the same.
I love my husband very much. It used to be really rare for him to not give me an orgasm. Ever since he got his Vasectomy done…(almost 4 years) it is almost impossible for him to do so. The only reason I have sex is to make him happy. I have no interest in it at all. I might get lucky and have three orgasms a year now if that. I don't even like his hands touching me in certain places. I know it is a mental thing but…he does nothing for me any more. I just want him to do what he needs to do and get off of me.
Aside from sperm and testosterone, the testis also synthesize NGF, a powerful protein that triggers fertility and sexual interest in females. A vasectomy disrupts the NGF pathway via the vas deferens to the female brain. Knowing this, there's little wonder why a female would lose interest in her vasectomized partner. A vasectomy, hard as it will be to admit, is one, huge hormonal disruptor. Where pleasure is ephemeral reward for the sex act, NGF is the mechanism that bonds couples for the long haul. Unless you want to dump your wife, you'd best be inseminating her with NGF — the more often, the better the bond. And that's not all. Semen has many other constituents with functions yet unknown. Better to consider a little common sense when messing with the body. If it's not broke, don't fix it.
It's surprising that NGF, alongside vasectomy, isn't at the top of search engine results. No wonder men are still undergoing vasectomy, obviously by urologists in huge denial here.
Semen has direct effect on female brain
by Kate Taylor
Posted August 21, 2012 – 04:00
I'm in my forties and i have had about 5 different partners, from my early 20's until recently that have had a vascectomy. SEX IS MASSIVELY DIFFERENT with a man who has had a vascectomy and i would never be in a long term relationship with anyone with one for that simple reason. It doesnt matter how gorgeous he is, how aching the chemisty is between us, or how deeply the feelings of emotional love run between us. hands down, my vagaina feels an absence of spark, of ferel-ness, of hit-that-mark urgency from him that is all part of the delicate dance of banging with an undercurretnt to get pregnant while not actually wanting to get pregnant. its a game of sorts and the more virile the man is–meaning he has sperm and can get you pregnnat–the more hot the componants are between us for sex. take away that driving force, that risk even subconsciously and you have little more than an animated dildo attached to a man. i dont care how many people will bash me for this but i honestly thought it was me with my first partner. we had an amazing sex life and he was the love of my life [in my twenties]. we actually chose to go and get a vascectomy together because our sex life was deep and he was afraid of pregnancy. the love was deeper as we went on but the feeling, the intensity of sex greatly diminished. we had other issues so i attributed this to those other areas. my next partner was someone i had dated a few years earlier and we were very hot. in the years since i had seen him, he had gotten a vascectomy. again, a noticable lack of the spark that once pulled us together. it would be years later when i would have another partner who had one, i was in my thirties then and again, assumed i didnt know what i was talking about. the same thing, the sex just wasnt the same as it was with someone who didnt have a vascectomy. i too, was excited at the prospect of limitless sex without worry of pregnnacy until it became noticable that i actually wasnt drawn to have limitless sex with my partner. it just wasnt the same. now, im in my 40's and in the last 5 years have dated several men who had vascectomies and had not told me. i could tell right away. its a shame really and i think that any man should seriously consider this elemant before diving off the deep end and cutting out the cro magnon drive we're all wired with to have sex to begin with. as for me, i persoanlly am not willing to give up my primal love of a man who is intact and with the driving force of sperm and the risk. my body knows the difference between the two and ive made my choice.
a good analogy is to ask if a female cat is interested in the neutured male. she isnt. its not personal, he just isnt going to arouse her deeper primal nature like a unneutured male is. sex is [for me] at best ‘okay' with a partner who has had a vascectomy–and yes, this is even while im in love with him. it doesnt compare tho to the bring me to my knees sexual prowess i feel with someone who doesnt have a vascectomy. and unfortunatly how we have sex and how it affects us is often directly tied to how in love we feel with somone. if the realtionship is workable that in love feeling can transcend to deeper love and long term commitment. but without the hotness of that sexual componant, you dont stand a chance of glueing the relationship togehter on semen only sex. she will never feel satisfied and she may even stop getting wet all togehter. in all my relaitonships with partners who have had a vascectomy, i ended up not wanting sex, dreading my partner wanting sex and not even able to get excited to have sex with them. this caused immesuable problems in the relationship as a whole and in honestly, i was more willing to walk away from these partenrs more quickly than i ever have been with men who im involved with who are intact. i would urge a man not to get a vascectomy because it changes everything.
I enjoy sex.. after 10 years i still want sex every day more than once. After 4 kids my husband choose to have a vasectomy. I still love sex! I have noticed that when im ovulating i fantasiz about sex with other men.
I know before his vasectomy i couldnt get enough of him. I dont know if it was psychological or physical… just though i would
My husband had a vasectomy 5 months after our third child was born. Almost 3 years later he is still complaining about my “lack of desire” for him. I feel robbed of his manhood and don't know how to move beyond it. I think he is really attractive and I enjoy sex with him some of the time, but like some previous posters said, it's lacking. The raw possibility that I could be filled with a child by his semen is gone. My body doesn't crave his fluids at all. I worry our relationship will continue to suffer because of this. He is sad because I don't desire him and I am sad because he is not the fertile man I married.
Vasectomies can ruin intimacy. It's ruined ours.
Glad I read this. I felt all kinds of bitch for finding my hubby less attractive, sexually than before his vasectomy. I have zero interest in sex with him and I cant tell him that, I mean how cruel! So, instead I'll just suck it up and think positive thoughts (it does help) I dont think of him as a ‘man' and that is just awfull but it is subconcious, I cant help it. I used to find his smell so sexy. I am so sad about it. We have enough kids, it is something more basic than wanting children, it is subconcious and I hate it. It started before he had the vasectomy, we discussed it, I didnt like the idea, but it is his body and I do not believe in telling people what they can do with thier body. I do wish I had sometimes. It has not changed my feelings of love and admiration and appreciation of him I just dont want to jump his bones anymore. It is amental thing so I will just change my thought process and I hope it works…
Comment Five: “My love button has been turned off since my husband's vasectomy. Sex just isn't what it used to be. I loved the way he would squirt all over me and now it just drops off the end. It's like going to watch fireworks and awaiting the grand finale…but you get one of those little streamer kinds. It is disappointing. He no longer smells like he did either. He would walk by and I could get so turned on by his scent and now, it seems like it's gone. I can't even smell it on his clothes like I did when doing laundry. I used to get turned on doing his laundry! Since his vasectomy, things have gone downhill sexually and just between us. I vividly remember him coming through the door after his vasectomy procedure and he seemed different to me. In fact, I almost instantly started looking at and lusting for other men. How do you explain that?
You bet it's biology. Now I'm disconnected and looking for answers. We have 3 kids and certainly don't want more. Vasectomy is just so sad in the end. Physically, mentally and emotionally. Don't do it. You will get more sex before the procedure!!!I'm loyal and I want to stay together but I also don't want to stay in a relationship with sex that doesn't turn me on.I can see why this could lead to divorce. I just want the man I couldn't get enough of back.Vasectomy took him away. We're together and all…It's just different now.Hard to explain but living it”
So all I'm saying here is that it makes me wonder. Is there some sort of casual link that goes Vasectomy -> Loss Of Sexual Attraction -> Divorce. Whether that loss of wifely attraction comes from a biological or psychological basis doesn't really matter, though it would be interesting to find out.
More importantly… why hasn't this been studied?
Semen smells different after vasectomy and its a massive turn off.
Not the smell (used to be strong kinda funky smell and now its a light sweet smell)
But the idea he's fixed .
Just not the same.
I love my husband very much. It used to be really rare for him to not give me an orgasm. Ever since he got his Vasectomy done…(almost 4 years) it is almost impossible for him to do so. The only reason I have sex is to make him happy. I have no interest in it at all. I might get lucky and have three orgasms a year now if that. I don't even like his hands touching me in certain places. I know it is a mental thing but…he does nothing for me any more. I just want him to do what he needs to do and get off of me.
Aside from sperm and testosterone, the testis also synthesize NGF, a powerful protein that triggers fertility and sexual interest in females. A vasectomy disrupts the NGF pathway via the vas deferens to the female brain. Knowing this, there's little wonder why a female would lose interest in her vasectomized partner. A vasectomy, hard as it will be to admit, is one, huge hormonal disruptor. Where pleasure is ephemeral reward for the sex act, NGF is the mechanism that bonds couples for the long haul. Unless you want to dump your wife, you'd best be inseminating her with NGF — the more often, the better the bond. And that's not all. Semen has many other constituents with functions yet unknown. Better to consider a little common sense when messing with the body. If it's not broke, don't fix it.
It's surprising that NGF, alongside vasectomy, isn't at the top of search engine results. No wonder men are still undergoing vasectomy, obviously by urologists in huge denial here.
Semen has direct effect on female brain
by Kate Taylor
Posted August 21, 2012 – 04:00
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