May be the wrong subforum but it definitely has to do with mental health. So I was thinking about the current relationship that I am in and seriously contemplating ending it. We have been to counseling, I've been to therapy on my own, read books, and adopted meditation. All this in an effort to better myself and make myself a better partner. It's beginning to dawn on me that no matter what I do, and how perfect I may be, it won't work if the other person is dysfunctional. So I have been jumping through hoops, trying to make things good and not getting much in return. Actually, if I ask for anything, it will most likely be refused or at best neglected. I'll admit that when this girl and I first met I did not treat her well. I did admit to this mistreatment but the thing was, when I was doing my bachelor thing she was right there chasing me. Anyway, over time she has managed to guilt trip me into a position where I have tried to make things right but it has morphed into a situation where I am starting to think this girl just outwitted me and in reality is pretty heartless. I hate to admit it but I want point she had me questioning my mental stability. Suddenly, I am looking around, like who the hell is this person? I thought she was the innocent meek damsel in distress and I am the reformed "bad guy". I guess just venting but I am really debating on what the right thing to do is. This has been a seven year relationship. Any thoughts? She's 38 and I am 39. I'm too old for this shit.