factors that affect refractory period

[BryanW]

To improve refractory period in sex, do not watch porn and masturbate. Leave that sexual energy for actual sex.

Agreed. I already practice this, but my refractory period is still about 2-3 days for partner based activity.

 

[Vince]

To improve refractory period in sex, do not watch porn and masturbate. Leave that sexual energy for actual sex.

This morning I rub one-off and still had great sex in the afternoon, that woman really turns me on.

 

[akrocket]

Yes I know what you mean, I don't think I've ever had two pops in close proximity, I'm one and done, always have been. Rare instances but that second time was 75%? Ive been wondering what is being expended so much that I can't go for round two til tomorrow (at least). PDE5i's certainly help but still...

when I was in my thirty I did it seven times in one day ... but not any more lol

 

[Mountain Man]

This morning I rub one-off and still had great sex in the afternoon, that woman really turns me on.

Ah, the real fountain of youth!

This is also an important factor as we get older. A younger, less experienced male, can get turned on by almost anything, albeit sometimes briefly. As we age we get to prefer certain kinds of women based on what we're exposed to and life experiences.

Maybe it's not that complicated. Maybe sometimes the "problem" isn't us, but it's the social and internal expectation that we "should" be able to come back for seconds. We may have to distinguish between being emotionally ready and physically ready. All this mental gymnastics and worry leads to overthinking things-a bad human habit, especially when it comes to sex which is both the most complicated and simple of human drives.

In my case, I consider myself blessed. I've always been attracted to beautiful older women, and my preferences have luckily adjusted accordingly as I've aged. I've been married 29 years and my attraction to my wife has gotten me through any rough patches in my marriage and, like most, there have been some.

Maybe if we all relax a bit, put sex in perspective, we'd all be much happier. It is an expression and a way to communicate between two people who, hopefully, care about each other. Think of the refractory period as a pause in an ongoing conversation.

I wonder how many of us who have posted on this thread have had our partners complaining that we can't go again in a few minutes. In those times when I am, my wife usually responds with, "What, again!?"

Maybe we are overthinking this. If your partner is satisfied, and so are you, it's all good.

 

[Mountain Man]

Just thought of this story:


A young bull and an old bull were grazing one afternoon on a hill. As they were eating, chomping along happily. The young bull looked down the rolling hills and spied a herd of young cows grazing on a hill about 400 yards away.

Excitedly, he said to the older bull:

"Hey, there's a herd of cows down there. Let's run down there and f*ck us a couple!"

The older bull looked up from his chewing, calmly gazed down the hill, and said to his young companion:

"Son, let's walk down there and f*ck them all..."

 

[Vince]

MM, I agree, we do overthink sex. I do like to go slow and enjoy making love and sometimes we just f***. The nice thing about having a good sexual relationship, when you're upset we each other. You still have a bond that will holds you together.

 

[captain]

Anyone remember Crisler say he was trying injecting DHEA and 3 times a day wasn't enough?


Maybe the refractory period gets longer as you get older to keep you from killing yourself or your partner. It could be a part of the human body defense mechanism.

 

[Vince]

Anyone remember Crisler say he was trying injecting DHEA and 3 times a day wasn't enough?


Maybe the refractory period gets longer as you get older to keep you from killing yourself or your partner. It could be a part of the human body defense mechanism.

but he also said his estrogen skyrocketed along with libido.

 

[madman]

Nelsons on point with this one as I would say vascular/neurological factors play a significant role and endothelial function is no where near the same as when we were younger due to aging/diet/lifestyle factors.

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