A cruel irony of TRT

[MIP1950]

This was widely known decades ago. The longer the marriage, the less sex. Notable milestones were after kids, after menopause or a hysterectomy. Many older women said they were no longer interested in sex and felt their husbands should just accept it. Probably a reason why so many men in this situation would look for release elsewhere. Later, feminists began pushing the idea that the reason for women's lack of interest, wasn't due to biology, but due to men not doing enough to maintain her interest. If you google this scenario, you will find countless articles on this, along with ones telling women (that have lost interest) to do this, that or the other, to bring it back, along with saying that if a woman isn't interested, there must be something wrong with her. What they always fail to acknowledge is that a lot of women just lose interest and are fine with that. When Viagra became popular, there were countless statements from women complaining about it, as they didn't want their husbands "pestering" them for sex. So, if a man wants a healthy sex life, and perhaps uses testosterone, etc., to support this, what is he supposed to do if his mate wants nothing to do with it?

First time i tried Stendra, prescribed by my urologist I had a quick psychiatric reaction; made me hypomanic. I have bipolar. So I told my wife what was going on. She blew up. Ranted about how disgusting it was that men are taking those medicines to have sex. I countered that Viagra or other such drugs are saving marriages or relationships. She wasn't hearing it.

As I've written, my wife has emotional problems and sexual issues. I learned some things about her life before we met, some of which she indirectly confirmed, and she would have been better off continuing dating women. I believe she's a lesbian but she could never accept herself. I feel sorry for her. Certainly, in our marriage, we've both been dissatisfied and, in later years, miserable. Now she has worsening dementia. As it continues on its downward trajectory, she'll be in long term care in the next six months or no more than a year, IMO. And I'm back to being single.

 

[Seth]

First time i tried Stendra, prescribed by my urologist I had a quick psychiatric reaction; made me hypomanic. I have bipolar. So I told my wife what was going on. She blew up. Ranted about how disgusting it was that men are taking those medicines to have sex. I countered that Viagra or other such drugs are saving marriages or relationships. She wasn't hearing it.

As I've written, my wife has emotional problems and sexual issues. I learned some things about her life before we met, some of which she indirectly confirmed, and she would have been better off continuing dating women. I believe she's a lesbian but she could never accept herself. I feel sorry for her. Certainly, in our marriage, we've both been dissatisfied and, in later years, miserable. Now she has worsening dementia. As it continues on its downward trajectory, she'll be in long term care in the next six months or no more than a year, IMO. And I'm back to being single.

I'm sorry to hear that. Really a sad situation for both of you. I watched my mother decline with dementia, to the point where she didn't even recognize me.

 

[Ardoc2]

Everyone is different. Here is my situation. My wife and I are both 69 years old. We have been married almost 51 years. We are both on TRT and also take PDE-5 inhibitors as well as numerous amino acids and supplements. We also try to keep our Nitric Oxide levels as high as possible. I try to keep sex interesting and fun to keep her interest high. The result: we have sex 3 to 4 times per week... sometimes twice in the same day. But, as you all know, we are all different.

Jobshopper, do you mind sharing the protocol your wife is using. My wife has tried the pellets which initially worked well but that faded quickly. She is now using Oral Progesterone, Estrogen Patch and Testosterone Enanthate injections. It seems to work well at times and less well other times.... Thanks in advance!

Oh and does your wife also take the PDE-5 inhibitors as well?

 

[MIP1950]

I'm sorry to hear that. Really a sad situation for both of you. I watched my mother decline with dementia, to the point where she didn't even recognize me.

Thank you. Living through dementia with a family member or spouse is even worse than cancer, which took both my parents and I cared for them until they passed. My wife swears there's nothing wrong with her even as her memory is becoming fragmented and porous. She gets mad at me for my concern, as if I'm lying to her about what I observe and experience, daily.

 

[Seth]

Thank you. Living through dementia with a family member or spouse is even worse than cancer, which took both my parents and I cared for them until they passed. My wife swears there's nothing wrong with her even as her memory is becoming fragmented and porous. She gets mad at me for my concern, as if I'm lying to her about what I observe and experience, daily.

That's a common reaction, as least in what I observed. I hope you someone who can help out, or at least talk with, as this progresses. It helps if you do.

 

[MIP1950]

That's a common reaction, as least in what I observed. I hope you someone who can help out, or at least talk with, as this progresses. It helps if you do.

Learning that. Working with my psychiatrist, who's also a neurologist. My wife bailed on another assessment at a recommended memory clinic. Her niece and my doctor told me to gently persist in getting her to go. She said yes, though I don't believe her and rebooked the appointment, now another month to wait. Her niece told me she'd come from Maryland to help get my wife to the appointment. I might need her.

 

[Yung4yrs]

Hey guys. I just want you to know there is some hope. I spent 3 decades trying to be the good dad and husband. I was high desire, intense from puberty forward. Good Christian boy, waited till marriage. Married at 22. I believe my wife had what is known in Psych as a "Taboo" thing going. Involved story, but not being wanted thing nearly killed me. Divorced finalized at 35 years. Angry and went a little wild after I got free.

Fast forward to 2020, maybe 15 yrs later. Met a pediatrics nurse. 49 at the time, 10 years a widow, ready for relationship. ME: read a lot, experience + new learning. We were a couple pretty quick and have bought a house together, married. I am a Type II diabetic and on TRT both over 20 yrs. (Most recent HA1c 5.6) We love each other like crazy and have VERY intense sex on average daily or better. I am a health enthusiast and in pretty good shape for her current age of 51. Except that I'll be 70 in 2 months. Having the time of my life. And so is she.

 

[Seth]

Learning that. Working with my psychiatrist, who's also a neurologist. My wife bailed on another assessment at a recommended memory clinic. Her niece and my doctor told me to gently persist in getting her to go. She said yes, though I don't believe her and rebooked the appointment, now another month to wait. Her niece told me she'd come from Maryland to help get my wife to the appointment. I might need her.

It's not going to be an easy journey. Best of luck to you.

 

[tareload]

while their wives are going through the "silent passage"?

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