Depressed: My Wife Does Not Accept if I Use Trimix or PT-141

[tropicaldaze1950]

Some people rescue and enable their entire lives. They never do what you've now done.

Celebrate that you have gone through the hard work of identifying something that will change you in a very positive way. Now the harder part, intentionally making that change, day by day, and maybe five minutes at a time - but always by intentionally pulling yourself out of your old pattern. Regarding your Dad - first congratulations that you had a great Dad (I did as well). But even great men can give great advice that he, himself, may not have followed if he had actually been in the same situation. Regardless, looking too frequently in the rear view mirror just increases the likelihood that you will run into something in front of you. I'd suggest thinking about Dad's advice one more time, smiling, and then let it be part of your past -- allowing you to focus on a better future.

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words.

 

[rustylwb]

Today, for whatever reason, women of all ages were smiling at me as I was shopping. At the opthalomologist the beautiful young woman at the front desk was friendlier than usual and overjoyed that I remembered her name. My wife suddenly was in an amorous mood. And there I stand with a penis that only comes to life once a day, late in the evening. I've posted many times that I can't tolerate any of the PDE-5s. Yes, my urologist has offered to prescribe PT-141 or Trimix, but my wife had told me a few years ago, when I got into bed with a rare erection, that she was finished with sex, after 30 years of her mind games and sexual ambivalence. It hurts. That's all. I'll stay on testosterone because the day is coming when she'll be in long term care due to worsening dementia and I'll have my life back. That might sound cold but it's a fact. And, by whatever means, I'll reclaim my erectile function.

My wife also told me that she didn't think I deserved sex because I wasn't nice enough. I told her that if she didn't want to do BJ or get her medical problems fixed I was going to find someone on Craigslist that wanted to give me what I needed and I did that very thing. Hundred of people that want sex are on the list and you can find a dozen in one day.

 

[albert88]

My wife also told me that she didn't think I deserved sex because I wasn't nice enough. I told her that if she didn't want to do BJ or get her medical problems fixed I was going to find someone on Craigslist that wanted to give me what I needed and I did that very thing. Hundred of people that want sex are on the list and you can find a dozen in one day.

That's one way but probably not the best way.

The better way would have been to tell her you're taking control and won't be giving HER any even if she asks for it. No further details needed. Save your energy, go do something better with it. Transmutation.

 

[tropicaldaze1950]

My wife also told me that she didn't think I deserved sex because I wasn't nice enough. I told her that if she didn't want to do BJ or get her medical problems fixed I was going to find someone on Craigslist that wanted to give me what I needed and I did that very thing. Hundred of people that want sex are on the list and you can find a dozen in one day.

All I know about CL is in this area of Florida, if you post a personal, it's quickly removed. Didn't find that in the Baltimore area.