How to Recover from Porn Addiction and Save Your Marriage

#21
And I was just the opposite, I always masturbated quickly, i spose subconsciously to avoid being caught. This lead to Premature ejaculation with the real thing. Still a battle to this day but getting better i think.

I also think porn but more importantly just masturbating in general kept me from having any real relationships in my younger years. Simply because I didn't need them to be satisfied.
I think there is a funny and a serious way, it's there in that you can find true freedom. I kind of struggle with the idea, seeing guys, that are tied to some magic thing called a Vag when you can easily replicate that with the kung-fu grip.
 
#23
Btw great post Vince Carter.

Please forgive my ignorance since I'm gay. I'm not familiar with str8 sex other then seeing it on porn.
But very familiar with sex with men.

It seems to me that some women might need some help understanding on how the male body works or perhaps therapy so they don't feel is their fault. It's no one's fault if your partner is having a hard time getting off and definitely not to take it personally. I'm sure there are women out there that understand this. Perhaps showing her what body triggers you have might be a good start. Also you can learn what get's her off too. Make it fun.

Not all guys are created equal. One way to reach orgasm doesn't fit all sizes. What gets us off is very individualized and probably set at a very young age.

My concern with the death grip is damage to the penis. You can create scar tissue and give you self peyronie's
Something you don't want.





I wonder if this is my problem. Back before the weight loss, and subsequent getting on TRT and developing at least some muscle mass to where I could attract women. I had masturbated daily. Sometimes a couple of times a day. Always with the death grip never using lube or anything.

The NoFap thing is just hard. ED is not at all an issue, but having orgasms with a woman is. Once in a great while I do. but more often than not I don't and end up finishing with my hand while she helps. And of course the woman feels like it's their fault.

I'd thought maybe it was lack of sensitivity with everything I'm taking. Should we modify nofap with using one of those devices that simulates the real thing?

Not that I am terribly proud of this but there is a lady I paid for once in a great while after befriending her when she was in the midst of a domestic dispute. She is a professional of course haha, and she always gets me off with BJ. I've seen her at least 8 times that I can remember (been a while) but only one time did I finish with my hand. Also two different girls nearly 20 years younger than me both got me off in two separate occasions. But some can't seem too no matter what.
 

Gene Devine

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#25
All I take this as is the latest route the anti-porn crowd has found to demonize it, pouncing on the ED issues where men are very vulnerable. There's so many, like a 100, different things men are doing, not doing, and taking (meds) that can contribute to ED, it's just the latest thing to blame. And calling it an addiction, versus a compulsive behavior, only seeks to absolve some one of their personal behavior. "It's an addiction so I'm not responsible for my behavior...", that sort of thing. As if someone stops fapping to porn and magically their penis is so hard it's shiny tipped, and so supersensitive and their in love all over again with their partner...I'm being facetious about it but there's an agenda there and item #1 is not to restore your penis or your relationship(s).

Totally agree with this post.

I have also seen studies that debunked all of this and stated that men had just as a normal sex life when they watched porn versus those that don't.

I've watched porn my entire life and it has had not one negative effect on my life.

Bullshit in my opinion and there are underlying purposes here...
 
#28
Totally agree with this post.

I have also seen studies that debunked all of this and stated that men had just as a normal sex life when they watched porn versus those that don't.

I've watched porn my entire life and it has had not one negative effect on my life.

Bullshit in my opinion and there are underlying purposes here...
to watch P**n in a limit is good but it shouldn't exceed much....
 
#29
I totally agree, when it becames "too much", it causes some problems. That's true, that porn creates unrealistic expectations and can damage sex life.
 
#30
You know you recognize yourself, you admit to yourself that you are addicted to porn, it's gonna be hardest. In such kind of situation, you can express your thought with your nearest one would be wise. :)
 
#31
les voy a ser sincero , le acabo de preguntar a mi esposa si le molestarÃ*a que yo fuera adicto al porno y definitivamente me dijo que no, para nada , que le aburrirÃ*a en tal caso si que estuviera siempre pendiente de una porno pero que normal si a mi me gusta cual es el problema . como les dije no soy adicto al porno , pero no veo nada de malo en ello , es mucho peor estar alcoholizado y mucho peor ser drogadicto !!!
 
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