How to Recover from Porn Addiction and Save Your Marriage

And I was just the opposite, I always masturbated quickly, i spose subconsciously to avoid being caught. This lead to Premature ejaculation with the real thing. Still a battle to this day but getting better i think.

I also think porn but more importantly just masturbating in general kept me from having any real relationships in my younger years. Simply because I didn't need them to be satisfied.
I think there is a funny and a serious way, it's there in that you can find true freedom. I kind of struggle with the idea, seeing guys, that are tied to some magic thing called a Vag when you can easily replicate that with the kung-fu grip.
 

sfguy

New Member
Btw great post Vince Carter.

Please forgive my ignorance since I'm gay. I'm not familiar with str8 sex other then seeing it on porn.
But very familiar with sex with men.

It seems to me that some women might need some help understanding on how the male body works or perhaps therapy so they don't feel is their fault. It's no one's fault if your partner is having a hard time getting off and definitely not to take it personally. I'm sure there are women out there that understand this. Perhaps showing her what body triggers you have might be a good start. Also you can learn what get's her off too. Make it fun.

Not all guys are created equal. One way to reach orgasm doesn't fit all sizes. What gets us off is very individualized and probably set at a very young age.

My concern with the death grip is damage to the penis. You can create scar tissue and give you self peyronie's
Something you don't want.





I wonder if this is my problem. Back before the weight loss, and subsequent getting on TRT and developing at least some muscle mass to where I could attract women. I had masturbated daily. Sometimes a couple of times a day. Always with the death grip never using lube or anything.

The NoFap thing is just hard. ED is not at all an issue, but having orgasms with a woman is. Once in a great while I do. but more often than not I don't and end up finishing with my hand while she helps. And of course the woman feels like it's their fault.

I'd thought maybe it was lack of sensitivity with everything I'm taking. Should we modify nofap with using one of those devices that simulates the real thing?

Not that I am terribly proud of this but there is a lady I paid for once in a great while after befriending her when she was in the midst of a domestic dispute. She is a professional of course haha, and she always gets me off with BJ. I've seen her at least 8 times that I can remember (been a while) but only one time did I finish with my hand. Also two different girls nearly 20 years younger than me both got me off in two separate occasions. But some can't seem too no matter what.
 

Vince

Super Moderator
I did not ejaculate for 5 days, and sex is better if I ejaculate at least once a daily or more.
 

Gene Devine

Super Moderator
All I take this as is the latest route the anti-porn crowd has found to demonize it, pouncing on the ED issues where men are very vulnerable. There's so many, like a 100, different things men are doing, not doing, and taking (meds) that can contribute to ED, it's just the latest thing to blame. And calling it an addiction, versus a compulsive behavior, only seeks to absolve some one of their personal behavior. "It's an addiction so I'm not responsible for my behavior...", that sort of thing. As if someone stops fapping to porn and magically their penis is so hard it's shiny tipped, and so supersensitive and their in love all over again with their partner...I'm being facetious about it but there's an agenda there and item #1 is not to restore your penis or your relationship(s).

Totally agree with this post.

I have also seen studies that debunked all of this and stated that men had just as a normal sex life when they watched porn versus those that don't.

I've watched porn my entire life and it has had not one negative effect on my life.

Bullshit in my opinion and there are underlying purposes here...
 

ranafertility

New Member
Totally agree with this post.

I have also seen studies that debunked all of this and stated that men had just as a normal sex life when they watched porn versus those that don't.

I've watched porn my entire life and it has had not one negative effect on my life.

Bullshit in my opinion and there are underlying purposes here...
to watch P**n in a limit is good but it shouldn't exceed much....
 

John Bell

Banned
I totally agree, when it becames "too much", it causes some problems. That's true, that porn creates unrealistic expectations and can damage sex life.
 

Ybarra

New Member
You know you recognize yourself, you admit to yourself that you are addicted to porn, it's gonna be hardest. In such kind of situation, you can express your thought with your nearest one would be wise. :)
 

viktor

New Member
les voy a ser sincero , le acabo de preguntar a mi esposa si le molestarÃ*a que yo fuera adicto al porno y definitivamente me dijo que no, para nada , que le aburrirÃ*a en tal caso si que estuviera siempre pendiente de una porno pero que normal si a mi me gusta cual es el problema . como les dije no soy adicto al porno , pero no veo nada de malo en ello , es mucho peor estar alcoholizado y mucho peor ser drogadicto !!!
 

Vanbooring

New Member
Porn addiction is one of the worst addictions a man (or a woman for that matter) can experience in my opinion. And yes, it can have a seriously negative impact on a relationship as it reduces sex drive since you're always sexually fed so to speak.

Thankfully, the Lord's grace is sufficient and with His help, I'm now free of porn and masturbation since 2016. I've mentioned the Lord because it's truly a miracle that I was able to achieve this.

Before that I was constantly lusting over images and videos of all kinds of women and it felt like I was a prisoner of this lifestyle. It was pretty much a habit for me to open my browser (or from my phone) and start looking for fresh material to lust after.

But yeah, this is some serious stuff guys. Pray for help as this is an addiction, just like being addicted to gambling or alcohol. Quitting porn is no joke so I pray God gives you the strength to free yourself from the chains of this awful sin.
 

DragonBits

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I mostly don't care for internet porn, it's kind of boring to me. For me, if I want to masturbate, my internal mental imagery is much most arousing. I mentally conjure up the most sexy past experiences. Or mentally plan out what I want to do in the future.

The only time I had an interest in internet porn was when my libido was insanely high and I had no woman that was available to have sex with, at least not within a reasonable amount of time. When i was 58 my libido was out of control, I did have sex 5 times (with a woman) in a day, 2-3 times a day most other days. Even 75 year old friends of my mother started to look sexy. But still, it was tough to find porn that was interesting enough to watch more than once. 90% of the situations portrayed in porn I wouldn't recreate in a real life sexual episode. Funny, I was so out of control I spent over $1000 just on sex toys. Porn IMO is shot to show the audience cum shots or uncomfortable positions, while in real life sex that isn't a turn on for me. I know some men may like that in real life (cum shot), but to me it's more like masturbation.

My introduction to porn was books when I was, I don't know, maybe 14? Man with a maid, Story of O, a few books like that. But I haven't read porn since I was a teen, though I did re-read man with a maid since it's now a free PDF online. Perhaps if i first watched internet porn as my first sexual experience I would have been more interested later in life. But I am not particularly interested in finding porn books now days.

masturbation for me is like a subsistence diet, it's better than boring sex / no sex but not even close to a really good real life sexual experience.

I don't discount that some men may have an addiction with real life negative consequences, I recall the story of a government worker watching porn for up to six hours a day for several years.
 
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