Vibrators Are GOOD for Your Sexual Health (Here’s Why)

madman · 2026-02-12T18:02:19-0600

Laura Pack and I talk through common fears and misconceptions about vibrators: concerns about dependency, partner insecurity, and the idea that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to experience pleasure. There isn’t. Pleasure is learnable, normal, and absolutely not something you’re supposed to figure out on your own.

If you’ve ever felt confused, embarrassed, or under-educated about pleasure, or unsure how to talk about it with a partner, this episode is for you.

What we cover

Why Explorer was designed for external pleasure only
The role of *blood flow and arousal* in comfort, desire, and response
Why *consent matters* in every relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together
How vibrators can support sexual health, healing, and confidence
Why materials, safety, and anatomical accuracy matter
How to talk with a partner about pleasure tools without shame or defensiveness
Why vibrators are not a replacement for partners
How sex education gaps leave women blaming themselves instead of the system
Why sexual wellness is a lifelong learning process

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Exciting News
02:59 The Journey to Creating the Explorer Vibrator
05:53 Understanding Female Anatomy and Pleasure
09:06 Designing the Explorer: Thoughtful Features
11:50 The Importance of Vibrators for Sexual Health
14:55 Consent and Safety in Sexual Relationships
17:53 Addressing Desire and Arousal
20:58 Q&A: Common Questions About Vibrators
34:59 Exploring XXX and Vibrators
39:55 Choosing the Right Vibrator
45:58 Desensitization and Vibrator Use
51:39 Vibrators for Beginners
55:11 Quality vs. Price in Vibrators
01:00:51 Normalizing Pleasure and Discretion

madman · 2026-02-12T18:03:20-0600

Thread 'Why Vibrators Matter for Women's Health'

Apr 17, 2025

In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Dr. Kelly Casperson interviews Lara Pack, founder of Elixir Play, on the importance of vibrators in women’s health and why it’s time to break the silence around female pleasure.

Lara shares her personal story of living with painful sex caused by endometriosis, and how that experience led her to launch a brand focused on creating high-quality vibrators for women. Together, she and Dr. Kelly explore how religious shame, cultural stigma, and cheap sex toy designs have failed women—and what we can do to...