Too Much Penis Sensitivity Getting in the Way of Sex

[Justin37]

I could use some help here! Hoping some people have ideas on solutions.

My penis has been sensitive since Day 1. It’s impacted my relationships drastically - how many girls have been told that their boyfriend / hookup does NOT want to fuck them? Some have been understanding but it hasn’t been ideal. I first masturbated with my underwear on as a teenager - I’m not sure why - and I’m wondering if that’s impacted it. I don’t have any issues when I touch myself to pee or just in general touch. I do get nervous when I get a physical exam by a physician. Otherwise, it’s only when it comes to sexual activity. I can get used to direct touch from my partner but it usually takes some getting used to her and comfort with her. It’s difficult to find the right amount of touch - too much is going to cause discomfort (6 out of 10?) and too little won’t do anything but tease me. I know how much direct touch that I can do and I feel like it’s gotten easier for me. I’ve never had intercourse and never had a woman’s mouth over my head. The head is much more sensitive (8?). Last summer I was able to get the condom on by myself alone just to get used to it. I haven’t been able to do the last few times and just haven’t had a huge desire to try since I get frustrated. Urologists have said that they don’t see anything physically wrong with me. I’ve had a sex therapist say that there’s a scale of sensitivity and I’m on the far end of that scale. It’s been a real struggle keeping the right girl. I’m not burdening by sexual shame caused by religion. I do have submissive fantasies and have a feeling of not being good enough though. I could definitely use any help/advice that you can provide!

 

[Cataceous]

Were you circumcised? That can cause this sort of thing.

 

[Mountain Man]

Age? You need to find a girl that is into you and build a relationship. If she cares about you enough, you will be able to work through this as a couple. You need a girl that is willing to have fun with you sexually and doesn’t care if you are too early, too late, or just something to play with. You are too self focused, and woman hate that. Find a woman and learn how to please her. Giving her sexual pleasure increases your confidence and will definitely build yours to the extent that you can perform. Sex isn’t just about penetration. There are a lot of woman whose primary sexual satisfaction comes from oral or manual, and there is a subset that could care less about intercourse. There’s a book you must read called “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner that will help. He is a sex psychologist and his story is similar to yours. Get that book, learn to give women orgasms, and you will find someone that will put up with your difficulties until you are comfortable enough to perform. You also need to try out a lot of woman until you find the one for you. If you can learn to please a woman sexually, you will find one.

 

[fifty]

Have you tried the numbing sprays used for PE?

 

[M.J]

Give me some of that sensitivity I sure need it, I am not sure if it’s only me but even when I was in my 20’s ( I am 38 now) I had issues with low sensitivity in. A bad way not a good way, without using my hands it seems impossible to finish although I did few times maybe 5 times only in my life !!! trying to improve this somehow, high estrogen made sensitivity worse feels like penis is suffocating and was solved by decreasing it, I went back to normal shitty sensitivity.

 

[Oldpowerlifter]

Man I’m opposite. Used to be ultra sensitive in a good way and now decade on TRT much less penis sensitivity as well orgasms aren’t as magic. It sucks. I’ve dialed in E2 and done pretty much every dopamine tune up stuff as possible with little to no change.

 

[BJE]

I guess I may not be understanding the OP. It seems he’s saying that touching his penis is painful. I’ve not had that problem. When I was you my penis was super sensitive and I could only last a few seconds during intercourse. Then my sensitivity got so bad I couldn’t maintain an erection and had a hard time climaxing. Now on TRT I have the best of both worlds. My penis is super sensitive but I have complete control over orgasm so that I can enjoy pleasure that’s out of this world while delaying orgasm then I have super intense orgasms.

 

[Cataceous]

Man I’m opposite. Used to be ultra sensitive in a good way and now decade on TRT much less penis sensitivity as well orgasms aren’t as magic. It sucks. I’ve dialed in E2 and done pretty much every dopamine tune up stuff as possible with little to no change.

Don't give up. It may be hiding but not gone. I had a return to (good) teenage level sensitivity for a couple weeks during a transition. I haven't been able to reproduce it yet, but I'm going to keep trying.

 

[Oldpowerlifter]

Any tips ? Other than dialing in E2? I’ve tried runs of different doses of Wellbutrin , Selegaline, Sinemet, and every supplement under the sun That’s supposed to help libido and such. I’m on low dose daily cialis too now as one doc says it may help libido signaling. I honestly think my libido has gone down because when your penis sensitivity and orgasm sensitivity or lack of feeling the euphoria of an orgasm goes on for a couple of years you lose interest in sex

 

[Cataceous]

Any tips ? Other than dialing in E2? ...

Mainly the usual, shaking things up a little with dose variations, trying small amounts of testosterone cream to scrotum or penis, either intermittently or for a week or two, verify prolactin hasn't crept up, etc. I do know that if I get a return of really good sensitivity I will get hormone levels tested in an attempt to see what matters. But it's likely to be more complicated than what basic serum levels will show.

 

[Zooka15]

I have found citocholine and ALCAR have increased my sensitivity.

 

[Justin37]

Thanks guys! Yes, I was circumsized. I'm 39.

Fifty, no I haven't. Any recommendations?

 

[Cataceous]

... Yes, I was circumsized. ...

Most guys won't have the patience, but it is possible to effectively regrow a foreskin. If none of the simpler options work out then it's at least something to look into.

 

[M.J]

I have found citocholine and ALCAR have increased my sensitivity.

What’s that I am tempted to try it can you provide more details plz

alcar I tried it before gave me morning wood (not crazy morning wood though but I felt it did something)

 

[Zooka15]

I think for me it is more of the citocholine that does it. I take 500mg daily.

 

[Nelson Vergel]

I have found citocholine and ALCAR have increased my sensitivity.

He is asking about ways to decrease it.

 

[Rock H. Johnson]

There is a technique called Jelqing. as far as I read it was taught by arab fathers to their pubescent sons. The Jelq technique let the penis grow fuller in girth and adds length. It needs to be done daily for 30+ min for at least 6 months but longer gives better permanent results. My experience it desensitizes the penis dependng on how often and intensity of applied force. I have also read it has regrown the foreskin of many who got circumcised without their consent. I can say from experience it is a bit of a work, you need to have discipline but the added half inch girth and length improved my confidence, sexual abilities and level of enjoyment. If you suffer from ED it is worth it to check this out.

Jelqing Exercise: Quick Guide for Beginners - AHCAF

 

[RLW]

There is a technique called Jelqing. as far as I read it was taught by arab fathers to their pubescent sons. The Jelq technique let the penis grow fuller in girth and adds length. It needs to be done daily for 30+ min for at least 6 months but longer gives better permanent results. My experience it desensitizes the penis dependng on how often and intensity of applied force. I have also read it has regrown the foreskin of many who got circumcised without their consent. I can say from experience it is a bit of a work, you need to have discipline but the added half inch girth and length improved my confidence, sexual abilities and level of enjoyment. If you suffer from ED it is worth it to check this out.

Jelqing Exercise: Quick Guide for Beginners - AHCAF

I have about as much free time as one could wish for but I'm not sure I could justify an extra 30 min a day of stretching my penis.

 

[Rock H. Johnson]

Then do 15 min....

 

[Nomad]

I wouldn’t recommend it... but nothing has numbed my penis more than Paxil and other SSRIs... to the point where I would need PDE5 inhibitors to stay hard if I wasn’t being stimulated with near perfect technique... there were also times on Paxil in order to ejaculate I would have to pump so hard... I would get so winded I’d lose my erection from exhaustion...

Do you have performance anxiety? Nothing will screw an erection more than anxiety... anxiety makes you hold your breath causing you to bust fast... afraid you’ll lose an erection... you’ll think about the sensation so much you’ll bust fast... relax.