Individual Who Don't Care
As your primary stated, there nothing you can do for someone who is resistant and doesn't care.
My Sister
My sister has been pre-diabetic for about 10 years. I've tried talking to her about modifying her diet; which is high in junk food.
It's too much work for her. She'd rather pop pills than change her diet. However, popping pills hasn't worked.
My brother-in-law is diabetic. He continues to eat junk food. To combat that, he just increases his insulin dosage, then eat more candy bars.
The Take Home Message
Unfortunately, you cannot help someone who does't want to be help.
Like your wife, the fact that my sister could do something but doesn't care enough to do so, continues to bother me.
There nothing you can do until someone want to make the effort. It's a waste of time. All it does create problem for them and you, as I found out with my sister.
