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10 (Politically Incorrect )Tips For The Modern Man
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<blockquote data-quote="masfield" data-source="post: 49121" data-attributes="member: 13737"><p>To this fine and funny list, I would add 2 things --</p><p></p><p></p><p>1/ Find out who you are in a crisis. My girlfriend and I once got stuck in an oceanside cave system with the tide coming in and no way to escape by land. The only way out, before the tide flooded the chamber, was through a narrow cave opening where odds were pretty good you'd get smashed into a back wall by an incoming wave and that'd be that. My solution? Sit and wait for help. Surely help had to come. My girlfriend's solution? Suck it up and brave the churning waters at the cave's mouth. Which we did. And we did survive. And I've unhappily known this about myself ever since: when it comes to panic situations, I'm a man sheep, waiting for someone else to lead. baaaa baaaa. </p><p></p><p> OTOH, I was sitting on the beach one day when a mad fast rip tide started sweeping people off the beach, so many so fast that there were not enough lifeguards to go around. Then my buddy and I saw a small girl caught in a lateral drift that had her making a bee line for a rock jetty. Before I knew what I was doing, I had jumped up and got my flabby, skinny body running in her direction, plowing into the water, managed to reach her just as she reached the jetty and pull her clear. </p><p></p><p> So, one positive and one negative. Good to know. Hope i don't have to face either situation or similar ever again.</p><p></p><p>2/ No matter who you are, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Like I said, I'm flabby and skinny and basically kitten weak and just the type of guy that other guys like to beta, none of which, given age, illness, genetics and looks, I can do anything about. So be it. But if you're a surfer, like I am, this is not a good thing, because it's a dog-eat-dog word out there and other guys will eat you alive, if they can ... and if you look like me. Skillwise, I can somewhat hold my own but I'm an easy target nonetheless. And I do understand my place in the primal pecking order but while it's not at the top, it's not at the bottom either. The three times someone has tried to shift me lower, I've gone up to them in the parking lot and let em have it. Not physically. I mean, your average 14-year-old could break my twiglike clavicle bone with a simple flick of the finger. And the guys I've gone up against are big ****ing dudes. So, no. Much as I'd love to throw down, I'm talking verbally. Just let it rip. Not loudly. Not in front of other people. Just one on one. I'd had enough, and I let em know it, and if they wanted to beat me into the used-condom and used-tampon littered beach, so be it. None of them have bothered me since and one of them has become a pretty good friend. And each time, afterward, I felt pretty damned happy with myself. </p><p></p><p> Now if in other areas I wasn't such a sheep, I'd be a strutting rooster, that's for sure.</p><p></p><p> BTW / I find it interesting that in survivable airplane crashes and fires and situations like that, many many people just sit there and do nothing at all to save themselves and perish as a result. I know for a fact that I'd be among them. But it's not like you can do anything about it to change your reaction. It's how you're built. The best you can hope for is to have someone nearby whose make up is different than your own and who can pull you into action before it's too late. My girlfriend is great at this. She's a born leader, not in life so much but in a critical situation, very much so. Too bad she's my ex-girlfriend now. I'm sure I've been in greater danger ever since the split.</p><p></p><p> That is all. Sorry for any perceived horn tooting but I had to balance out the negative with some positive, just to maintain face.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="masfield, post: 49121, member: 13737"] To this fine and funny list, I would add 2 things -- 1/ Find out who you are in a crisis. My girlfriend and I once got stuck in an oceanside cave system with the tide coming in and no way to escape by land. The only way out, before the tide flooded the chamber, was through a narrow cave opening where odds were pretty good you'd get smashed into a back wall by an incoming wave and that'd be that. My solution? Sit and wait for help. Surely help had to come. My girlfriend's solution? Suck it up and brave the churning waters at the cave's mouth. Which we did. And we did survive. And I've unhappily known this about myself ever since: when it comes to panic situations, I'm a man sheep, waiting for someone else to lead. baaaa baaaa. OTOH, I was sitting on the beach one day when a mad fast rip tide started sweeping people off the beach, so many so fast that there were not enough lifeguards to go around. Then my buddy and I saw a small girl caught in a lateral drift that had her making a bee line for a rock jetty. Before I knew what I was doing, I had jumped up and got my flabby, skinny body running in her direction, plowing into the water, managed to reach her just as she reached the jetty and pull her clear. So, one positive and one negative. Good to know. Hope i don't have to face either situation or similar ever again. 2/ No matter who you are, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Like I said, I'm flabby and skinny and basically kitten weak and just the type of guy that other guys like to beta, none of which, given age, illness, genetics and looks, I can do anything about. So be it. But if you're a surfer, like I am, this is not a good thing, because it's a dog-eat-dog word out there and other guys will eat you alive, if they can ... and if you look like me. Skillwise, I can somewhat hold my own but I'm an easy target nonetheless. And I do understand my place in the primal pecking order but while it's not at the top, it's not at the bottom either. The three times someone has tried to shift me lower, I've gone up to them in the parking lot and let em have it. Not physically. I mean, your average 14-year-old could break my twiglike clavicle bone with a simple flick of the finger. And the guys I've gone up against are big ****ing dudes. So, no. Much as I'd love to throw down, I'm talking verbally. Just let it rip. Not loudly. Not in front of other people. Just one on one. I'd had enough, and I let em know it, and if they wanted to beat me into the used-condom and used-tampon littered beach, so be it. None of them have bothered me since and one of them has become a pretty good friend. And each time, afterward, I felt pretty damned happy with myself. Now if in other areas I wasn't such a sheep, I'd be a strutting rooster, that's for sure. BTW / I find it interesting that in survivable airplane crashes and fires and situations like that, many many people just sit there and do nothing at all to save themselves and perish as a result. I know for a fact that I'd be among them. But it's not like you can do anything about it to change your reaction. It's how you're built. The best you can hope for is to have someone nearby whose make up is different than your own and who can pull you into action before it's too late. My girlfriend is great at this. She's a born leader, not in life so much but in a critical situation, very much so. Too bad she's my ex-girlfriend now. I'm sure I've been in greater danger ever since the split. That is all. Sorry for any perceived horn tooting but I had to balance out the negative with some positive, just to maintain face. [/QUOTE]
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