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    • 10 (Politically Incorrect )Tips For The Modern Man


      10 (Politically Incorrect )Tips For The Modern Man


      By Will Brink @ BrinkZone.com
      © 2016


      Modern men are confused, especially where it concerns modern women, but more on that in a few. The modern man does not appear to know whatís required of him, whatís expected from him, or where to turn for advice. Well Iím here to help in some small measure. Itís often the case the simplest advice is the best advice. Hereís 10 politically incorrect tips that should help the confused modern man get a handle on it and back on track.

      Letís be honest, not everyone had great male role models to follow growing up. In fact, solid male role models are few and far between these days for younger men in need of some direction. The all too often result is men finding themselves wearing skinny jeans, hairless, and smelling like the chicks sitting behind him at Starbucks wearing the same unisex fragrance wondering ďis this the man I wanted to be?Ē I canít cure all the ills of mankind (with emphasis on the man part) in a short article, but I can give some basic advice that will help, should you choose to take it to heart and actually apply it. Consider it modern man building 101 and a work in progress to build from. Itís not a ďhow to get girlsĒ guide, but a ďhow to be a man of measure in a confusing time for men which may result in more interest from womenĒ guide. Capiche?

      The advice is tongue-in-cheek and sarcastic to the max to be sure and hopefully humorous, but make no mistake, the advice is legit and will likely offend some of the delicate snowflake ilk we suffer in these times of political correctness. In my view, political correctness is harming the modern man. If youíre not offending someone, youíre doing it wrong in my view, so hereís some no bullshit advice the modern man should take seriously; it will get the confused modern man back on the path of manliness, and ultimately, happiness and satisfaction of being a man in a modern world. If youíre a sensitive snowflake easily offended by frank truth bombs and some salty language, probably not the article for you. If youíre in that large segment of men who are just damn confused about what qualities a modern man should possess to have a man card these days, read on!

      1: Be Man Handy

      Not to be confused with being a handyman. Yup, this again. I know, so old school and boring, but itís still as important today as it was in your grandfathers time and his grandfathers time. No, being able to at least change a flat tire, add fluids to a vehicle, hammer a nail, figure shit out, and be generally handy has nothing to do with attracting women per se. Itís simply a basic skill set every man should have, regardless of who it may or may not attract, and it can be learned. That itís a bonus in the eyes of many women is a plus, but should not the primary motivator for being handy with basic life stuff that happens. Truth is, most women find a man who canít even change a flat tire less than useless, much less attractive.

      There was a millennial type I spoke to recently who took his bike to a bike shop to add air to the tires! I shit you not. I asked him if he could change a tire on a car or add fluids to it and he said no. If you canít change a tire or add fluids to a vehicle or figure out how to add air to the tires of your bicycle, you have failed even the basics of essential man skills and need to look between your legs to check the nard status. You donít need to be Joe expert carpenter, car mechanic, and construction worker, but for God sake at least know how to change a lock on a door, fix a broken lamp, or do an oil change if needed. Buy a basic guide from Home Depot and start with small stuff. You should always have a basic minimal tool set, no matter where you live. Learn to drive a stick shift if you donít know how to already. They might be rare in the US, but in much of the world itís still quite common and itís a good skill to have. It also looks cool when youíre the only guy in the group who can jump behind the wheel and work a stick shift like it was second nature.

      Speaking of tools, learn how to use a firearm. No, you donít have to be a Navy SEAL Delta operator ninja, but understanding the basics of how to use a firearm is another tool in the toolbox of life skills that could be very useful. As apex tool users, our forefathers fed their families, defended their lives from four and two legged varmints, and protected their way of life from both foreign and domestic enemies with that tool. Whether you like firearms or not is irrelevant in this context; not knowing how to use a firearm is like not knowing how to use a fire extinguisher because you donít like fires. That level of denial and delusion is what gets you killed. Worse, itís what gets the people you care about killed, and protecting them, to the best of your ability, is your job as a man. Being able to know which end goes bang, basic safety rules, and the essentials of operation and manipulation of firearms, is a basic essential man skill.

      2: Stop Giving A Damn

      Stop giving a damn what women want. You know what women really want? I man who knows what he wants. If some handwringing PC type wants to take that out of context and claim itís misogynistic, that men should stop caring about what women want, you really need to pay attention here. Whatís meant by that advice is, many men today spend an inordinate amount of time trying to figure what women want rather than who they are and what they want. Women as a rule, are attracted to men that know what they want and are hard working and driven to obtain it. Ambition is an aphrodisiac to women and earns the respect of other men. That does not mean being a jerk (see below for further details on that) or cavalier about womenís needs and feelings. Thatís not whatís being recommended here, but it does mean not chasing your tail by trying to guess what women want and altering yourself to match it. Youíll never win and theyíll never find the man they want.

      This is not about developing some ďbad boyĒ persona, itís about being true to yourself and realize thereís a lid for every pot and women sense, and are attracted to, authenticity and men respect it. If they are attracted to the bad boy types who treat them like dirt, ignore their feelings - usually due to self-esteem issues - you donít want them anyway and should actively avoid such women. Be the authentic you, not some group approved version of you designed to appeal to the largest group of sheep you can find, female or otherwise. This brings us to:

      3: Donít be an A-Hole

      Itís really not that complicated, but some guys seem to mess this one up, especially where it applies to women. Donít take their stuff without permission, donít write checks from their checkbooks, or attempt to sleep with their sister or best friend, or take their car without permission. You know, little stuff like that. Have a job, donít live at home with your mommy (unless youíre mommy is sick or otherwise needs your help), and do your best to keep the Drama Llama visits to a minimum whenever possible. If you find this one confusing, or any of the above applies to you, you might be a jerk. To be honest, A-holes do make it easier for decent guys to succeed, so donít worry if thereís no cure for Chronic A-Hole Syndrome. Be smart, donít be one of those guys. If you are one of those, like all A-holes, the point of this section will be lost on you. ďGood guys finish last!Ē some of you may say. That may be true in some cases, but itís still preferable to being an A-hole. Karma does count for something.

      Donít mistake those that are natural born incurable A-holes for those with A-hole-like tendencies. All men have innate A-hole-like tendencies, because, well, weíre men! For example, donít mistake arrogance for confidence or vice versa. The two are polar opposites. Arrogance stems from a low self-esteem and is a coping mechanism for it. Its nature is repulsive to other people be they men or women. Confidence is an attractant and comes from a locus of a healthy self-esteem coupled with experience and hard earned knowledge. Confidence, true confidence, has a magnetic quality to it.

      Humility and confidence compliment each other and are always found together in the same person. The genuinely confident man is easy to spot as heíll also be humble when it matters. Confident people know what they know and are confident in their abilities, but just as quick to admit to what they donít know as their ego and self-esteem not dependent on their knowing everything or being right all the time.

      4: Be Life Functional


      No, you donít have to run out and join a Cross Fit ďboxĒ tomorrow, but thatís fine if you do. As I said in a recent article ďAs anyone not living in a cave the past few years knows, Ďfunctional trainingí is all the rage. On the surface, thatís a good thing. Itís a generally positive trend toward training thatís more functional, applicable, and Ďreal world.í Itís recently found acceptance with the civilian market as well as the military and law enforcement communities. Yup, everyone and his mother has jumped on the Ďfunctional fitness/functional trainingí bandwagon. Thatís not a bad thing.Ē Being able to move your own bodyweight through space could save your life and that of others and is expected of a man.

      This one seems fairly self-explanatory to me, but it seems to vex some. If you canít at least pull yourself up over an object, drag someone of your approximate weight to safety, or help her brother get a heavy chest up a few flight of stairs, what good are you? If the heaviest thing you can deal with is a notebook computer, you have a problem. Yes, modern living has made the need to be minimally physically capable of doing those things non-essential for day-to-day survival, but your very survival may depend on that ability when you need it.

      Hell, can you pick up your injured or sick girlfriend and get her to safety if thereís a fire? If not, youíre failing in the man department. Yes, some have legit reasons they canít, such as injuries, illness, or age, but many if not most modern men canít accomplish that and have no legit excuses as to why they canít. That does require one to spend every waking minute of free time lifting weights, but a minimal fitness standard for being a functional human being that can rise to a challenge does exist. Women are by nature, smaller and weaker than men. Obviously not the case 100% of the time (so donít get your panties in a wad you feminist wadcuttersÖ) but as a general rule, thatís the case.

      Me, I think women and men should be as physically strong as possible for health and lifelong functionality, but thatís another topic. Some women are pretty damn strong, many (sadly), not so much, none of which is your concern as a man per se. End of the day, a man should be able drag an injured person to safety, get himself over an obstacle, or when called on, lift heavy shit when his woman, friends, or family needs his assistance. If you canít, and can supply no legit reason for that, get your ass onto a regular exercise program pronto. The benefits to health and visual appeal to the opposite sex, or sex of your preference, are added benefits of regular exercise obviously, but basic functional strength for both everyday life and possible emergencies is your job as a man. For some ideas how to get yourself into shape, see my web site BrinkZone.com

      5: Remember, ďYou donít have to like it, you just have to do itĒ


      That was not some Army drill sergeant who said that, but my 5í1Ē mother when Iíd complain about not wanting to do something as a dumb kid. As I like to say, ďShe was the meanest man you ever met.Ē She was never going to win Mother Of The Year I can assure you, but she was tough as nails and did instill in me early the reality that we donít always like or enjoy what has to be done, yet do it we must. A man needs to develop his ďpersonal ethosĒ as Navy SEAL commander Mark Divine discusses at length in his excellent book on Kokoro Yoga. That ethos can be quite simple or based on a set of general guiding principles.

      When times are tough, or I have to do something I really donít want to that simply must be done, I hear my mother in my head. There were actually a few times when that simple mantra saved my ass, like when I got turned around while hiking in the snow deep in the woods in very cold weather and realized the sun was setting and if I didnít get out of there before dark, I was going to be in deep do doo doo. I started to panic a bit and then realized come hell or high water Iíd hike through it to safety and I ďdidnít have to like it, I just had to do itĒ repeated over and over and over Ďtill I popped out on a road finally a few hours later wet and cold but alive. I didnít make that mistake twice (cuz men also learn from their mistakes!) and was much better prepared for future hikes.

      The lesson here is, a man must have an internal fortitude that people come to respect and depend on. No one, man or woman, wants to be around that guy who they canít depend on. The man they know, if he puts his mind to a thing, will get it done or die trying. Which brings us to:

      6: Take a stand and stand there.

      A man knows where he stands and stands there. He does not alter his views to please people or to get laid. People tend to respect a man who stands for something and stands there even if the people around him donít always agree. Simply following whatís popular or trendy to ďget alongĒ or fit in in the modern world is not how people such as Martin Luther King Jr., Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, and Mark Twain to name a few that come to mind, made their mark on this world. The pressure to fit in, offend no one, and get along, is greater now than ever. Screw that. Guess what:

      The goal of life is not to fit in, but to stand out!

      A modern man of measure thinks before he speaks, chooses his words carefully, and attempts to apply critical thinking skills to what he says. But, he realizes what he says may not always be a popular place to stand, but stand there he will. Thatís not the same as being a stubborn intransigent bucket head which leads us to:

      7: ďRealĒ Men learn from their mistakes!


      Knowing where you stand, because your personal ethos and thoughtful research has lead you to conclude thatís where you should stand, is an essential aspect of being a modern man. That does not mean you canít be wrong, admit when youíre wrong, and learn from it. Again see discussion about confidence vs. arrogance and being intransigent bucket head. Donít be an intransigent bucket head. Be willing to challenge your own positions on a topic, and make sure they still hold up under thoughtful critical examination. As my old psychology professor used to say ďFacts can alter emotions but emotions canít alter facts.Ē You screw up, own it, and drive on.

      Everyone screws up. Some learn from it, and do their damnedest not to repeat it. Some never seem to learn shit from their mistakes, and repeat the same mistakes over and over and thatís often due to being a stubborn intransigent bucket head. Donít be that man. Itís neither productive nor ďmanlyĒ and believe me, I come from a long line of intransigent bucket heads. Learn from your mistakes and youíll be much closer to the man you wish to be, the man others look up to and respect, the man other men will want to emulate because youíre both strong of will and humble where it counts. Itís also a quality women find attractive.

      8: The Metrosexual Vs. The Renaissance Man


      The Merriam-webster.com definition of metrosexual is:

      ďÖusually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothesĒ

      Thereís nothing inherently wrong with that, and if that makes you happy, drive on I say. If a man can fix stuff, shoot shit when needed, strong enough to carry an injured person to safety, chop some wood, knows the difference between being his own man vs. following the crowed for approval, is not an A-hole, can recite a Robert Frost poem, and enjoys fine clothes, music and food, he may be a Renaissance man.
      The Merriam-webster.com definition of Renaissance man is:

      ďÖa man who is interested in and knows a lot about many thingsĒ

      The Urban Dictionary definition is:

      ďAn individual talented in all spheres of human endeavor, including but not limited to sports, art, science, war, philosophy and music

      That is, a man who does his best to be multi faceted and multi talented in a wide variety of areas that are both practical and personally developmental.

      Donít get caught up in the whole alpha-male label or what ďrealĒ men do or donít do, or some manly man nonsense that ends up as a poor facsimile of John Wayne. What it means to be a man of measure has changed over the generations, and thatís fine. Some things however donít change. Being a man of measure is not about being a tough guy, getting into fights, or saying only three words per year, or swaggering around like some arrogant jerk. A ďrealĒ man can be as comfortable helping his daughter shop for clothes as he is with his buds at a football game. Heís also secure enough to tell his buds he canít make the football game because he has a yoga class scheduled that day... Strive to be a man of measure, a modern day Renaissance man who does not cave to pressure to fit in. Which brings us to:

      9: Do Manly Shit!

      Strive to push your boundaries: sky dive, take up a martial art, hike in the woods, take archery classes, play flag football, go camping alone, take a survival course, take an especially challenging form of yoga, etc. They donít always have to be terribly dramatic. Never learned to swim? Go learn now! It will scare the hell out of you, but youíll gain a huge sense of accomplishment from it, and repeated accomplishments accumulate into genuine confidence. Confidence, versus arrogance, must be built one brick at a time. Itís earned, not given, and takes time. Many men today seem expect respect not earned. Donít be that guy.

      The point being, you should actively seek out activities that challenge you on all levels that take you well out of your comfort zone. A modern man actively seeks out new ways to challenge his comfort zone, for if you donít push your limits, how will you know where they are? Doing such things increases confidence, self-reliance, and self esteem. It also raises testosterone. The activities chosen may not always be ďfunĒ while youíre doing them, but will be an opportunity for considerable personal growth.

      I took a three day survival course once and there was nothing fun about it, but on completion, I experienced a huge sense of accomplishment, and well, more manly! I also kept the mantra ďYou donít have to like it, you just have to do itĒ going in my head as I was freezing my ass off and hungry one night. Although it does not exactly fall under the ďpush your boundariesĒ category, even looking at pictures of attractive women can raise a manís testosterone, if only temporarily. Speaking of testosteroneÖ

      10: Get your testosterone levels checked


      Yes, seriously. Itís interesting to note data suggests the average testosterone levels of men has fallen dramatically from past generations as well as other indicators, such as strength dropping in age matched men between prior generations. Thatís not good. If you think your grandpa was more ďmanlyĒ then the men you see around you today, youíre probably right.

      Testosterone is literally the hormone that makes men men.* Itís essential for all the things we tend to associate with men, such as muscle mass, strength, in addition to mood, libido, and so forth. Exactly why testosterone levels appear to have dropped over the generations is unclear, and likely multifactorial, including an increase in body fat levels, estrogenic chemicals (xenoestrogens) found in the environment, to socio-cultural effects, to others not fully elucidated at this time. Make no mistake, testosterone levels in men are not just a matter of biology, they are also a factor of psychology and culture. An in-depth discussion on testosterone and itís many benefits to men is beyond the scope of this article, but hereís a vid on why I think every man should get it tested regardless, and thereís a ton of articles and such on my web site and resources such as Excelmale.com for more info on the topic. To get your testosterone blood level checked cheaply, go to DiscountedLabs.com (no doctor needed).


      Conclusions


      Thatís my down and dirty guide to what the modern man can do to start or enhance his journey as a man of measure in these confusing times, and quite possibly be more attractive to women as a side effect. Yes, some women may prefer the dude in skinny jeans who goes to the same place she does for a Brazilian wax and is wearing the same fragrance she is on a date, and is incapable of changing a flat tire. Thatís not your problem nor concern frankly. Good luck to them I say. Thereís a lid for every pot and men should not attempt to fit lids they are not the correct pot for. Remember, we are all a work in progress, and no one is perfect nor Super Man. I know a few guys that get pretty close, and theyíd be the first to tell you Ė because humility and confidence are always found together Ė they too are a work in progress.

      So what about women? If a woman reads this article and decides she should focus on some of the above, does that make her more ďmanly?Ē or masculine? Not in the least and Iíd encourage any woman to follow and emulate the above if she so chooses. However, this guide was for and about men, and what a modern man can do to potentially improve himself in all facets of life. It was a ďman to manĒ talk as they say. For every article that covers some topic of concern to men, thereís a thousand articles written for women. So, if you feel left out, ladies, my bad, but it canít be helped. Thereís an article out there on how to ignore jerks who write articles directed at men only no doubt. I kid ladies, but you know what Iím saying here. Thereís a ton of information out there for the women, not so much for the men that is not about how to get six pack abs and such. Hell, women reading this may want to forward it to the men in their lives as a hintÖ

      Now if youíll excuse me, I have a yoga class to make. Good luck out there boys!

      * = Itís also an essential hormone for women and I do cover that in various articles and videos.

      Additional reading/vids of interest:

      (1) http://www.brinkzone.com/articles/8467/

      (2) http://www.brinkzone.com/general-hea...y-mark-divine/

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      Comments 14 Comments
      1. kyle's Avatar
        kyle -
        clever list, I enjoy your humor. I've also seen nootropics to be popular among men my age (mid 20-s), something I've thought about giving a try with my workout supplements.
      1. linter's Avatar
        linter -
        To this fine and funny list, I would add 2 things --


        1/ Find out who you are in a crisis. My girlfriend and I once got stuck in an oceanside cave system with the tide coming in and no way to escape by land. The only way out, before the tide flooded the chamber, was through a narrow cave opening where odds were pretty good you'd get smashed into a back wall by an incoming wave and that'd be that. My solution? Sit and wait for help. Surely help had to come. My girlfriend's solution? Suck it up and brave the churning waters at the cave's mouth. Which we did. And we did survive. And I've unhappily known this about myself ever since: when it comes to panic situations, I'm a man sheep, waiting for someone else to lead. baaaa baaaa.

        OTOH, I was sitting on the beach one day when a mad fast rip tide started sweeping people off the beach, so many so fast that there were not enough lifeguards to go around. Then my buddy and I saw a small girl caught in a lateral drift that had her making a bee line for a rock jetty. Before I knew what I was doing, I had jumped up and got my flabby, skinny body running in her direction, plowing into the water, managed to reach her just as she reached the jetty and pull her clear.

        So, one positive and one negative. Good to know. Hope i don't have to face either situation or similar ever again.

        2/ No matter who you are, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Like I said, I'm flabby and skinny and basically kitten weak and just the type of guy that other guys like to beta, none of which, given age, illness, genetics and looks, I can do anything about. So be it. But if you're a surfer, like I am, this is not a good thing, because it's a dog-eat-dog word out there and other guys will eat you alive, if they can ... and if you look like me. Skillwise, I can somewhat hold my own but I'm an easy target nonetheless. And I do understand my place in the primal pecking order but while it's not at the top, it's not at the bottom either. The three times someone has tried to shift me lower, I've gone up to them in the parking lot and let em have it. Not physically. I mean, your average 14-year-old could break my twiglike clavicle bone with a simple flick of the finger. And the guys I've gone up against are big ****ing dudes. So, no. Much as I'd love to throw down, I'm talking verbally. Just let it rip. Not loudly. Not in front of other people. Just one on one. I'd had enough, and I let em know it, and if they wanted to beat me into the used-condom and used-tampon littered beach, so be it. None of them have bothered me since and one of them has become a pretty good friend. And each time, afterward, I felt pretty damned happy with myself.

        Now if in other areas I wasn't such a sheep, I'd be a strutting rooster, that's for sure.

        BTW / I find it interesting that in survivable airplane crashes and fires and situations like that, many many people just sit there and do nothing at all to save themselves and perish as a result. I know for a fact that I'd be among them. But it's not like you can do anything about it to change your reaction. It's how you're built. The best you can hope for is to have someone nearby whose make up is different than your own and who can pull you into action before it's too late. My girlfriend is great at this. She's a born leader, not in life so much but in a critical situation, very much so. Too bad she's my ex-girlfriend now. I'm sure I've been in greater danger ever since the split.

        That is all. Sorry for any perceived horn tooting but I had to balance out the negative with some positive, just to maintain face.
      1. lcvl's Avatar
        lcvl -
        So clichŤ it should be on T-nation.
      1. Will Brink's Avatar
        Will Brink -
        Quote Originally Posted by kyle View Post
        clever list, I enjoy your humor. I've also seen nootropics to be popular among men my age (mid 20-s), something I've thought about giving a try with my workout supplements.
        Glad you enjoyed it.

        Quote Originally Posted by linter View Post
        To this fine and funny list, I would add 2 things --


        1/ Find out who you are in a crisis. My girlfriend and I once got stuck in an oceanside cave system with the tide coming in and no way to escape by land. The only way out, before the tide flooded the chamber, was through a narrow cave opening where odds were pretty good you'd get smashed into a back wall by an incoming wave and that'd be that. My solution? Sit and wait for help. Surely help had to come. My girlfriend's solution? Suck it up and brave the churning waters at the cave's mouth. Which we did. And we did survive. And I've unhappily known this about myself ever since: when it comes to panic situations, I'm a man sheep, waiting for someone else to lead. baaaa baaaa.

        OTOH, I was sitting on the beach one day when a mad fast rip tide started sweeping people off the beach, so many so fast that there were not enough lifeguards to go around. Then my buddy and I saw a small girl caught in a lateral drift that had her making a bee line for a rock jetty. Before I knew what I was doing, I had jumped up and got my flabby, skinny body running in her direction, plowing into the water, managed to reach her just as she reached the jetty and pull her clear.
        .
        Good stuff but not stuff you tend to have control over. If challenging yourself regularly confidence and esteem improve, being life functional, etc means when that "test" comes, much more likely you'll respond to it favorably and with success.

        Quote Originally Posted by lcvl View Post
        So clichŤ it should be on T-nation.
        clichŤ or not, timely, relevant, and accurate. T nation has some excellent info, and some not so great info.
      1. linter's Avatar
        linter -
        Quote Originally Posted by Will Brink View Post
        Glad you enjoyed it.



        Good stuff but not stuff you tend to have control over.
        i'm not sure challenging yourself regularly will have any impact on what you do when push comes to shove in a super-heated max-stress situation. Could be that the big and brawny wilts like kale in a steamer, while some milqtoast rises to the occasion, which is what makes such things so interesting. Ya never know how you'll react until you're in the fire-filled cabin, a hundred oxygen masks dangling in front of your face and the air hostesses bellowing for calm. Ya never know. Unless you've been in a somewhat equivalent situation before. Then you have a pretty good idea, for better or for worse.
      1. Will Brink's Avatar
        Will Brink -
        Quote Originally Posted by linter View Post
        i'm not sure challenging yourself regularly will have any impact on what you do when push comes to shove in a super-heated max-stress situation. Could be that the big and brawny wilts like kale in a steamer, while some milqtoast rises to the occasion, which is what makes such things so interesting. Ya never know how you'll react until you're in the fire-filled cabin, a hundred oxygen masks dangling in front of your face and the air hostesses bellowing for calm. Ya never know. Unless you've been in a somewhat equivalent situation before. Then you have a pretty good idea, for better or for worse.
        You never know is 100% truth. All you can do is stack the deck in your favor and hope for the best. There's not much else you can do. I have known some of the highest level people in the SOF community for example who still didn't know how they would really respond when the bullets started flying even with all that training for just that event. You don't know 'till you know.

        At that level with that much training, very rare for someone to fall apart when SHTF, but I'm sure it happens and no one wants to be that guy.
      1. davidrn's Avatar
        davidrn -
        What I took away from this, was the importance of what we teach our sons. (and just spending time with them on projects) My older son is 32, and more than likely in the top 5% of millennials for trade type skills. He is a CEO of a "Green Company" in NYC, but he still knows how to change his oil, tires and do a brake job. He built a few pieces of furniture that he designed and put together in my woodshop. He knows how to survive in the wild, and can mix in with Millionaires in NYC comfortably. His friends, are very much unable to do many of the tasks I taught him. Can he build a barn from scratch like I did, yeah, he helped and paid attention. He works out, and eats clean, what more could I want from a son? He will surpass me some day., when he retires younger than I did (58) and falls back on old work skills, not related to computers.
      1. Will Brink's Avatar
        Will Brink -
        Quote Originally Posted by davidrn View Post
        What I took away from this, was the importance of what we teach our sons. (and just spending time with them on projects) My older son is 32, and more than likely in the top 5% of millennials for trade type skills. He is a CEO of a "Green Company" in NYC, but he still knows how to change his oil, tires and do a brake job. He built a few pieces of furniture that he designed and put together in my woodshop. He knows how to survive in the wild, and can mix in with Millionaires in NYC comfortably. His friends, are very much unable to do many of the tasks I taught him. Can he build a barn from scratch like I did, yeah, he helped and paid attention. He works out, and eats clean, what more could I want from a son? He will surpass me some day., when he retires younger than I did (58) and falls back on old work skills, not related to computers.
        For sure, but as mentioned in the beginning, many don't have such roll models to teach them and many don't have sons to teach. But, good roll models and or being one yourself obviously helps a great deal.
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        Attachment 2402 Just turned 42 last week................still have this book will brink rulez!
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        I have always been an alpha type A (but nice guy) who has been mostly brainy and never learned the handy "basics" from my father (like oil change). But I "take care of things" for everyone is my world when it comes to crisis and difficult decisions. Most people say I am the "daddy type". Does that count? Some of us compensate and/or have never been poor enough to do "certain manly chores" that we pay others to do.

        I recently learned how to shoot. That skill cannot be outsourced to someone else if you need it!

        I am also now searching for good survival training camps for older men with physical limitations like a history of back surgeries.
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        Quote Originally Posted by madman View Post
        Attachment 2402 Just turned 42 last week................still have this book will brink rulez!
        My first book way back in the day! Cool. That was pre internet BTW!
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        Quote Originally Posted by Nelson Vergel View Post
        I have always been an alpha type A (but nice guy) who has been mostly brainy and never learned the handy "basics" from my father (like oil change). But I "take care of things" for everyone is my world when it comes to crisis and difficult decisions. Most people say I am the "daddy type". Does that count? Some of us compensate and/or have never been poor enough to do "certain manly chores" that we pay others to do.

        I recently learned how to shoot. That skill cannot be outsourced to someone else if you need it!

        I am also now searching for good survival training camps for older men with physical limitations like a history of back surgeries.
        Boom! No pun intended.
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        Will

        I used to read your stuff back in my "Built to Survive" days. Very happy you are part of ExcelMale.com
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        Quote Originally Posted by Nelson Vergel View Post
        Will

        I used to read your stuff back in my "Built to Survive" days. Very happy you are part of ExcelMale.com
        I was the first to review and recommend "Built to Survive" in the magazines via my monthly column in MuscleMag Int. Talk about way back machine!